My 16 year old had her 16th party last night. She's one of the youngest in class so all 16 or nearly 17. It ran 8-12, they had the kitchen and garden and parents stayed in the lounge. I went through to get a drink or snack every so often and walked through garden to take dog out etc.
Near the end of the party I went in kitchen, turned lights on and watched as people were ready to go. Made sure people had lifts or walking in groups home. One lad was drunk. He couldn't walk very well and he was going to walk with his group of friends home. We live in a small town, he lived about 3 miles away in a tiny village, no pavements etc for last 2 miles so I wouldn't have it. Got a sick bowl and dropped him and his friends home. He was sick on the way home and I stopped to empty the bowl. Rang his doorbell and told his parents he was worse for wear and I had brought him home. They were obviously furious. Asked me what he had drunk, I said cider but didn't actually know. They were very off with me, didn't thank me for bringing him home and kept saying how much trouble he would be in. I said maybe it was his chance to learn, we all so it etc but seemed to make it worse!
There were 60 people at the party.
My question is - should I have spent all night going around checking what people were drinking and the condition they were in? (She's my oldest and first party we've had).
I put out plastic cups so people could drink water and put snacks out. We both walked through regularly but I didn't go up to every person and check on them specifically. Should I of? I feel a bit worried I have not been very responsible.