I need advice. Ds is now 18 and he keeps himself to himself so much he hardly talks to us. When he is at home he spends all his time in his room, I mean all his time. He hasnt sat in the living room with us for years, literally. He is doing well, got into uni, did well at school, no issues, nice girlfriend..
But I miss him and when I go into his room and try and talk to him about this I get an eye roll and a what now mum. I just want him to be involved with us a bit more, to see him a bit more. Its like he left home years ago. He never chats to his younger brother, he gets ignored. And I know he feels it.
I dont know what to do to draw him into family life a bit more. I know hes now an adult and I dont expect him to sit and chat, but God it would be nice. He chats away to his friends online and sometimes we turn down the tv just to hear him!!
I feel hes being rude and a bit arrogant but I think hes just so wrapped up in his life he doesnt see it as bad that he basically cuts us off. He doesnt eat downstairs and we never eat round the table, thats all fell away. Please dont tell me to start it up again, we all seem to eat at different times a lot of the week.
I would just love him to come in and walk into the living room and talk about his day for 5 minutes, thats all. I've tried to tell him this but he so doesnt get it.
If anyone has experience of this, please can you give me any advice. If you havent, please dont come on and tell me what you would do without any knowledge of what its like, believe me I've tried and tried and I just need someone with a son like this to tell me how it got better. He does always ask me how was work mum, when I come home, and thats usually it. He hardly speaks to his dad, unless its an answer for something, like a football related thing.
He never shut up when he was small!!!
help, please