Hopefully I'm in the right place. A few months ago I found out via FB that my son was seeing a girl he had known at school. They are both now 19. I also discovered via FB that she was pregnant by another boy.
My son, who up to then had caused us no problems admitted he had been lying about going out with a mate and was meeting up with the girl in town.
At the time she was living in another town and visiting ours now and again. When I asked my son about it he burst into tears because he had lied to us and had been to scared to tell us about the baby. The following day he told me it was finished by her because was scared the ex boyfriend would hurt my son.
I breathed a sigh of relief.
Over the past couple of weeks I had allowed my son to stay over night at a mates house. After being out all day last week I realised on passing his room he was talking to a girl on his phone, I assumed the same one. The following morning my oldest son got up for work and found a note from my son saying he was going to live with a friend and not to bother looking for him. Me and my husband eventually found the house we thought was the mates, we knocked and a middle age man answered, my husband is convinced he heard my sons name called, the man said he had never heard of our son and slammed the door in our faces. It was the GFs house. We went to my mums having to break the news to her before trying FB to get hold of our sons friends when her phone rang, it was our son wanting us to meet.
We briefly met and son came home.
We and our son are moving away from the area hopefully, he is looking forward to it. He asks if he can meet the girlfriend who still has a photo of the ex on her FB, which I say yes too, he is an adult after all, I cant stop him. But I will not allow him to stay over night, there are already 5 sleeping in a 2 bedroom house. The GF has told him she is having the baby adopted and will have her own place, she isn't working and sleeps on a mattress on the floor. Basically I spend all day everyday worrying about what happens after the birth but I'm terrified the ex will do something to my son and there's nothing I can do as our son is an adult, though living with us