What happens to all these boys?

[pasanda]

All these boys who, as teens, spend most of their lives on playstations and x boxes? (I am referring to boys as this is my ds, but I know that girls can be the same too).

Who don't appear to have any engagement in much else, particularly at home?

Who seem so lazy and cba about the state of their rooms, revision, homework, and just about anything that isn't a screen!

Who do they become?

Are they destined to become adults who have no work ethic, who sit on their arses all day?

Please tell me it is a teen thing else I fear I am bringing up a boy who will have all these qualities as a man. I fear for his future wife! I fear for his future.

When will he wake up and have passion for anything??

What the teacher says is true of many boys. Sometimes they seem to wake up at the the last minute and realise this is real. Some don't get it until all around are proudly waving their exam results and they have failed.
One of DS's friends did this and is now starting 6th form again from the beginning with a belatedly different attitude.
The weed and drinking changes things though. That's a whole lot more than just obsessive gaming and untidiness .

pasanda I think my DS is living in your house! Same behaviour down to the bed covers.

DS is very sociable though which basically means I barely see him. He is either out with his friends and I think "that's ok, at least he's not stuck to his console and he gets a bit of sun" or he is home stuck in his bedroom gaming and I think "well at least he's not out misbehaving".

Well I am here next year for GCSEs so we can pull our hair out together! DS promised that as of September he'll focus on GCSEs. Well I hope I live to see that...

I hope they do grow out of it. I have three DSs who all seem the same, apart from YS who is a county level athlete, but has as much of a messy room as the others.

My biggest issue right now is that I have lost the will to cook anything as they won't eat anything I cook. I used to enjoy cooking, but now it's such a trial as they won't eat anything expect junk. Their father is often the same and comes in from a long day at work saying he's not hungry or he doesn't feel like what I've cooked. I don't 'slave over it' any more as it is so demoralising.

As for all the OPs who suggest turning off the wifi, they are clever enough to turn it back on, and recently dad thought it would make things faster by linking it all to the ethernet so we don't need wifi. This means I can't actually turn it off! I used to switch it off at 10pm, so they had plenty of time to do homework [which they need the computer for] and I had time to do family admin [which I need the computer for!].

You can't win!

Mrsmuddlepluck I was always fighting a losing battle in my house, as had two gaming DSs and a gaming DH. They used to have lovely long chats about gaming with DH! So much for standing united as parents! Anyway, the good news is they did grow out of it and got into good Unis. DS1 used to revise in front of his computer and would often have some nonsense on in the background. I thought he'd never be able to revise properly that way, but he got really good grades.

They still love gaming and will have some long sessions when home, but mostly they don't have time. And at uni they can't game on their laptops.

So don't despair!!