Hate my sons girlfriend

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I hate hate hate hate HATE my sons girlfriend. She is nasty, manipulative and controlling.

Last weekend Me and my partner took her daughter, my 2 sons and their girlfriends and my daughter and her 2 young children to the beach to the beach as it was hot. They all had brought swimming stuff with them so decided to go in the sea, so obviously son took his T-shirt off and she quickly jumped onto him about putting in back on. My partner asked why and she told her because there are other girls around. I tried to politely point out that my son is a skinny pale 17 year old boy, girls aren't going to look at him and think oh wow I'll have some of that 😂 This is just one example of the controlling things she does.

She never lets son have a social life outside of her and even my son has moaned to me about this. She has all his passwords for his phone, Facebook and other social media accounts. Doesn't even let him see other girls even his friends and get extremely jealous when he is talking to my elder sons girlfriend even though she is 19 and has no interest in a 17 year old, oh yeah AND IS HIS BROTHERS BLOODY GIRLFRIEND. She even says nasty things to me and partner and the other girlfriend. Even got told that she had a massive row with her 14 year old sister because she had taken a picture that my son had photo bombed on her phone and she wanted her sister to delete it because "he is her boyfriend and she doesn't need a picture of him on her phone"

Me and my partner think we get on pretty well with her despite our dislike for her but I can't deal with it anymore.

Should I speak to my son and tell him I'm worried about their relationship and I really do not like her or just leave it alone and let them get on with it?

oh please do grow up.

My dd is17 and has a nice bf whose parents asked me to dinner to meet them. Very nice family and made me welcome. I'd be horrified if they hated me.

You need to let him make his own mistakes. It's quite common for girls this age to be insecure btw.

You have to step back and allow him to work it out for himself. We had a very similar situation with our DS when he was 16/17. His GF wanted to be with him all the time, vetoed his friends, was stirring up trouble behind his back ( which he didn't realise until afterwards), constantly demanding stuff and gifts - a Xmas list of things she wanted etc. She was also lying about a lot of things in her past. DS would alternate between defending her and moaning about it. All I would say to him was "Relationships at your age should be about fun and bring you happiness. If it's limiting your life and causing you stress then it's not healthy". He ended it himself just after Xmas ( when she'd been very ungracious about the lovely gifts he'd bought her).
He's definitely learnt from the experience though. He's only just started a new relationship but this time he and new gf set their ground rules at the beginning about maintaining their other friendships, hobbies, family time no he's a different boy.
Re the passwords- DS 's ex did enough damage to his reputation on social media without them so definitely insist on him changing them.