Teenage Dd - hard cold advice needed please

[Sonnet]

DD (15). No background supplied as need short sharp advice on how to handle.
Just been very rude and entities. Threw my washing basket and turned over chair. Pushed me twice. I asked her what her plans are as she said yesterday she needed flowers for her art project. Cannot go out her self due to isolated house.
History of explosive behaviour

Here in my own at the moment but last night ended after she was rude to DH and refused to get off her phone when eating.

We have no control and I don't know how to get it back.

What would you do now if me?
Thank you x

[BertrandRussell]

I don't have any answers- but we live very rurally too, and I would never restrict lifts as a punishment. It was our choice to live where we live not theirs. I might say no party, for example, as a punishment, or not going out its friends, but only if I would say the same if she could walk there. Lifts as required are a given. So if you would let her walk to get the flowers if that was possible, then give her a lift.

[Sonnet]

Thank you all - we went to get flowers (from supermarket in the car)
Spent all afternoon doing her art project
Mine is the same CodyKing - perfect at school and other people's homes. Just wants to do what she wants to do when she wants to do it. Hates helping out at home and moans and groans through any chores asked of her!

Watching a family film now with DH, her sister and sisters friend - no phones.

To clarify Usual she is not isolated from her friends or has to earn lifts. Not quite sure where that came from other than my comment that I may start to withhold them for bad behaviour In an attempt to regain some control. She is also not isolated from her friends. Since school on Friday she has had a friend here for a sleepover Friday night, tennis session Saturday morning followed by going to the rugby with family Saturday afternoon (and meeting friends there), party sat night where she slept over at another friends and back home Sunday afternoon. Today was when she was suppose to catch up with homework hence the explosion. Living rurally where she cannot come and go to friends at a whim does not make her isolated from her friends Usual

I can't believe I am the only parent of a teen worried about phone usage.

[CodyKing]

Noooo - I'm hoping she'll grow out of it - she's 11 - no chance then?

My little madam is especially worse when home from friends - I think it's all "being on their best behaviour"

Then rahhhhhh !!!

Pleas tell me there's still hope!

[Sonnet]

There may be Cody - you may be lucky

[CodyKing]

Off to sulk!

[Kennington]

Screen time might be the issue: have seen similar with relatives children.
On this sort of thread I always mention switching off the wifi and restricting phone use......goodness knows if it works but have seen improvements in others kids. It is a simpler step.
the op will know best if it is a tantrum or a true mental health issue.

[Ticktacktock]

I hate phones and social media. Hate with a passion. It is the cause of lots of rows in our house. I turn off the WiFi every night at 9.30, later on weekends. I confiscated her phone last year for 3 days, and she spent the first evenings downstairs with us since the previous xmas. She became human again. Then grew horns back on the return of the phone.

Does your Dd leave her phone downstairs at night?