My DS called me f*****g C***t

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That is it really. I was asking him to hurry up for school and he called me that. I am a single parent and he is really pushing boundaries, thought he was going to hit me at one point. I am very sad and cried all the way home from the school. He has texted and apologised but have not responded yet.. We are actually very close and he is usually kind and loving. Any suggestions on what I can say to him tonight?

Ah yes... those delightful teenagers. How old is he op?

... just realised that was my assumption that he's a teen!

How old? Disgusting. Poor you x

He is nearly 16. He is screwing everything up, his exams, smoking dope. Told me he wants to go and live with his dad but was said in anger

Ah yes, I've got one of those (although he's 20 now), told me last night he wishes I actually had died giving birth to him (I very nearly did and so did he, it got complicated). Proper charmers some of them, aren't they? I'm sure you've done your level best OP and one day they'll all realise they're not half the experts they think they are.

I told him he is grounded but cannot physically stop him and towers about me. And yes it was disgusting, and made me feel sick. Makes you realise how much a strong dad would be useful on these occasions

I said awful things to my mum as a hormonal teenager. I think some teens are just horrible but they usually grow out of it. I'm really quite lovely now.

notgrumpy good grief that is awful. He is 20 !!!!!

I blame hormones on this and the the vile weed.

He has texted and apologised.

This is good.

Tonight, I would just say: That really hurt me. I'm your mother and I love you. It's unacceptable.

That's terrible, hope you're feeling a bit better I think I'd probably try and guilt trip him by explaining exactly how it made you feel and how upset and hurt you've been, rather than bollocking him. If he's normally a good kid then this might work. If he doesn't have a strong male role model, is there a particular teacher at school that he looks up to who could have a serious talk with him about his behaviour? Sometimes when you're a teenager you just have selective deafness when it comes to your mum. Shitty but it happens.

To call someone a fucking cunt over putting a coat on is completely unacceptable. It must be so hard to a SP and dealing with a teen boy. I would probably send him to his dads for a week to send a strong message you won't accept that.

I will most definately be telling him how hurt I was. Totally disrespectful, I am pretty sure he will be feeling bad. I have told his Dad and he going to have a word later not sure if it will help. His dad is a weak character.

"Thank you for apologising but I'm still really upset" would be my response.

Have you read Get out of my life, but take me and Alex into town first? It has been a life saver for me. I thought I had totally stuffed things up with dd until I read this book, it is so reassuring and gives you the perspective from their point of view.
Dd has said some appalling things to me, and is on month two of a complete iPhone ban, but if I hadn't read this book, I would be terrified as it is I am quietly ok.
It is not you, it is them. Please read the book.

Thanks RickO I will look into that. Thankfully he is good majority of the time. He is hating school atm, due to exams and struggling, so sure that is a contributing factor.

Good he apologised, good he is lovely other times, but make him pay for this! I mean it. Would you do the same to him? Of course not. It would be emotional abuse. Don't let him get away with it, believe or not he needs you to stand up to him.

Update well ,he was sweet last night but still thinks I was mean to him, I did kind of loose it a bit after he called me that. Still this morning he was up on time and no drama. Hope it was just a glitche.