Mother's day - what are you expecting?

[Chocolateislovely]

I just ask because last year my mother's day gift was a text, late afternoon, wishing me happy mothers day. Dd had forgotten apparently

DD is away but has made me a card which I am supposed to know nothing about. DS is 6, so now old enough to make me breakfast in bed with a bit of supervision.

This year, I expect a card, a lie-in and breakfast in bed. I am also taking DS out for a hot chocolate as a nice treat for us both.

Hopefully breakfast in bed and a home made card, maybe even something else as dh has announced he's taking dds to the shops this afternoon. I'm doing roast beef for lunch tomorrow, off to MIl for a while then we're going for a walk and ice cream before watching a film together.

DS1 away at uni - no cards in the post today so I may or may not be lucky enough to get a text tomorrow.

DS2 has shown no sign at all of needing to go to town or anywhere near a card or flower shop despite my hints that I mustn't forget to get granny a Mothers day present .

I expect nothing.

Nothing: we don't bother with it.

The other day I was feeling stupendously pissed off and stressed and DD came back from shopping and presented me with a very jolly pair of socks. I'd rather have something spontaneous like that than a card on Mothers Day, tbh.

The two at uni won't even notice that it's happening.

Today I saw from the window DD1 (14) and DD2 (12) coming back from the local shop with a huge bouquet of pink flowers which they were trying to hide behind DD1's back

DS2 made a mysterious visit into town the other day and then awkwardly said he couldn't tell me why - most unlike him to show that level of initiative. DS1 will either completely forget or send some overly generous flowers - it's never somewhere between the two. The other 2 - not sure.

There was a year when they all, including DH, forgot and I had the mother of all hissy fits, so I'm pretty sure there will be some degree of fuss and damn right too. I don't care if it's a commercial scam - I do a hell of a lot for them and they can show some appreciation one day a year.

I spoke too soon. DS2 has made a fuss about going to the shops to get something decent to eat because there's nothing worth eating in the kitchen. It was a ruse.

I say every year I genuinely don't want them to spend money on me, but a little thoughtfulness such as Mum, put your feet up and let me make you a cup of tea goes a very long way.

I guess dh will take ds(12) to Tesco to get me a card, some Lindor, a bottle of wine and a wee bunch of supermarket flowers. ds will be especially nice to me all day. Predictably the same every year, but still love it.

I've had:
One cup of tea brought to me in bed
One rendition of the Mother's Day song (made up on the spot)
One handwritten voucher for 25 hugs
One handmade card that had so much artwork that there wasn't room to write anything, so there are no words on the outside or inside.

I'm happy.

I'm intrigued wardrobedoors! So what happened?

I don't like it tbh. I feel sorry for my 3 DCs - they have no money and I don't want them spending on me. Xmas and birthdays are enough. The two DSs are away at uni (and abroad at the mo) so it's silly expecting them to remember, then they feel bad when they realise and I feel bad for them feeling bad! Wish the whole thing didn't exist!

DH was very good and cooked lunch for MIL and me. I sent my DM (lovely, undemanding DM) a card and texted, and DD is back later today with something (prob flowers).

13y Dd was excited this year as it was the first year she was sorting it all out herself, from her own pocket money. Only started proper formal PM in past year, and where she now sorts things out like gifts independently.

She got be a Yankee candle, with a shade and plate for it. Plus a card. She knows I love candles. She also got me a card, and brought them all in to the bedroom this morning, and snuck into the middle for hugs. Me and her then had breakfast in bed, along with a chat, etc. Lovely :D

I received a text late morning from my one and only (dd18 at uni). Just 'happy Mother's Day mummy' - the bare minimum.

Tbh have a big lump in my throat and very close to crying - am feeling very glum because it speaks volumes about what she must really feel about me. Very sad.

Mine said he 'wasn't bothered' when Granny tried to help him/chivvy him, but most unexpectedly baked a cake & made me tea this afternoon. Even nicer after thinking it was going to pass unacknowledged & convincing myself I didn't care. Well I don't! But I would be very churlish not to appreciate him baking a cake!

Well of course dd has gone and made a fool of me and did buy me a pressie so I did feel a bit rotten. But she is in a huff now over something else so its back to normal.

Chorltons that was me last year as well. Same as OP. I sympathise.

Dses got me lovely presents, and ds2 made pudding after the dinner which DP made.

The best thing was the cards. They wrote lovely things. I feel proper loved.

DD was out at orchestra all day. Tapped her feet impatiently because we were tight for time cooking breakfast before we drove her there. Didn't mention anything. Got a text at about 3pm: "thank you for making food and cleaning the house and earning money and buying nice things and washing clothes and doing all the stuff etc. and I'm sorry I'm such a bad child but I love you very much ❤️💓💓xx" Since been absolutely vile. I really do despair...

I'm in a state of shock- every year I get nothing not even acknowledgement and this isn't just Mother's Day it extends to birthdays and Christmas. I expected nothing especially as DD hates me more than normal this month. She stayed at a friends last night but brought home a bouquet a box of chocolates and has ordered me something online!!! She made me 1 cup of tea and a sandwich and even sat downstairs with me watching a film and chatting for 4 hours (usually in her room 24/7 on phone and texts me asking any questions such as "when's dinner and what is it"). She was sick about 6 times today so I suspect she's hungover although she claims not to have drunk last night, bad parent alert - I'm not even cross as I'm so stunned she bothered!! She also text to say "I know I'm a cow to you and say horrid things but it's only because your always bloody right and wish I'd listened".