Started a thread last week here when I was worried she was ill but got checked out by a Dr who said its down to lack of food, the collapsing and muscle pain and feeling like shit.
Have spoken to her HoY who has spoken to dd and reckons that dd is putting herself under lots of pressure to do well in gcses and that because she spends all lunch time/break time doing school work that's why she doesn't eat lunch, hoy says she's sure there isn't an eating disorder.
I was really firm with dd last night and said she's got to eat more. I'm now insisting on breakfast. Ive tried saying a salad isn't enough for lunch but we've compromised on a more substantial salad, one that includes chicken and maybe cheese rather than just leaves and cucumber and a few croutons. She's also agreed to taking a banana in.
Any suggestion of sandwich, cracker breads and cheese, etc is met with point blank refusal. She veers between saying she doesn't like them then when I point out she's esten them happily in the past she says she's bored of them, then says she doesn't want to get fat. She weighed herself yesterday and said she was upset as she reckoned she was 8st2lbs and three days before had been 7st1lbs. I told her the scales must be wrong but that she was to stop weighing herself so much. She weighed herself again this morning and is 7st1lbs so she is a bit happier. She keeps going on about how her favourite teacher who she adores is slim and pretty and only eats salad. The school work she does at lunch time is art subject which is what this teacher teaches. She's pushing herself at the subject to impress this teacher. She isn't spending time doing german and science which are the subjects she's struggling with, so I'm not sure HoY has quite got the grasp of the situation.
She is very fussy with food and after endless discussion last night about what she might eat for breakfast has agreed only to either pancakes or croissants. She then moans she might get fat if she starts eating breakfast.
I don't understand because she will happily come home from school, decided she's hungry and go to the shop over the road and buy chocolate and eat it. I really don't think she's bulimic. Our house is quite small, only one loo and I would hear her throwing up.
I'm worried that there still might be something physically wrong with her. She's permanently knackered. Fell on the floor last night, screaming hysterically that her back hurt, like a deep muscle ache in her spine. Was like it for ten minutes refusing to move. Ive gone and bought more multi vitamins and iron this morning, she did have some previously but I can't find the bottle. She says she stopped taking them a bit ago so ive impressed on her that she must have one every day.
She's had pancakes for breakfast today, french stick with chicken and cucumber for lunch and I'm going to do a roast dinner tonight. Had breakfast and lunch with no complaints and I think she will eat dinner.
School has said she has to continue with German. They say they will make sure she passes, not sure how. I don't know if I should be pushing her to revise for this exam she has next week which is worth 15% of her mark.??
Anytime I do she just starts sobbing that she doesn't know any of it and gets so upset it's untrue. Ive tried telling her she doesn't know it because she's spent next to no time trying, that she needs to put more effort in. She just sobs and sobs and says it doesn't matter how much she tries to learn it that she can't remember. She is dyslexic and ed psych said she's got the worst working term memory he'd ever seen. Trying to learn verbatim two pages of German seems beyond her.
She's sat upstairs now happily minecrafting rather than doing any school work.
Ive still got an appointment next week with our normal GP as we went to out of hours the other evening. I think I will still take her. Does it sound like an eating disorder or does she just sound stressed?