Advice please for single dad about daughter's periods starting...

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I'm just after a bit of reassurance please. DD has started her first period at the age of 13. We talk about all sorts including this subject, but are both a bit new to it! She's using pads and gets through about 2 per day, so I guess it's not that heavy, but my concern is that it's been going on for two and a half weeks now. Is this unusual? I know periods can be irregular to start with but is it "normal"to last this long? She's fine otherwise, feels fine in herself, not anaemic looking or overtired.

Do I need to take her to the doctors?

*about

Op, I salute you for being a supportive father and being open enough for your daughter to ask for help. Sometimes you just can't win on here as a man.

Hang on, so if we're suspicious we have to do advanced search to rule (or not rule) out a dodgy OP but when we do an advanced search to rule (or not rule) out a dodgy OP we are called creepy?

Which is it? Use advanced search or not?

And plenty of women have been banned for posting creepy shit too. Its not 'cause he's a man.

We arent talking about other threads where other women have been called creepy Elf, we are talking about this one specifically. Would a mother have been called creepy for asking a legitimate question about her daughters just started period or for helping her shave?

Would a mother have been called creepy for asking a legitimate question about her daughters just started period or for helping her shave?

Depends if a very similar thread had been deleted just hours before for being "not what it seemed". I've seem it happen.

Growing armpit hair isn't a sexual characteristic That's part of growing up. 2 threads in over 2 years about his daughter is hardly over sharing.

OP, I'm sure all will be OK but getting her checked out is a good idea.

some education for you

What two threads in two years which quite possibly would legitimately tie in with a timeline in which a child started growing public hair and then started her period . For goodness sake.

And elf regardless of if a thread had been posted a few hours ago, then deleted. Its not your call to insinuate anything dodgy is going on. You know to report as you have done. Why not leave it at that and leave the thread as the moderators frequently tell us, if you think it's creepy or not genuine. Instead of possibly alienating a genuine father asking for advice. What do you gain from that?

*pubic hair

What would mumsnet do without the thread police marching up and down the boards

You know to report as you have done. Why not leave it at that

Because as happened on the other thread that was dodgy, people may have started to divulge information about their own DC's development. If that was me i would want the heads up that it may not be as it appeared.

well, MNHQ by their own admission rely on people reporting anything they think might not be on the level

so anyone reading (marching up and down?) the boards is a requirement of a self moderating site like this one, by definition

Yes report and then leave it alone.

Such a shame to see s genuine post by s concerned father derailed by the bloody mumsnet police. OP, I think you're being very sensitive towards your DD. It's a challenging time but I'm sure you're helping her through it. It may just be her body settling down but worth taking her to GP just in case.

Ignore the negative comments. It's then that should feel ashamed.

@Ubik1

What would mumsnet do without the thread police marching up and down the boards

We ask people to report anything they're not happy about. We will not be deleting this thread as currently have no reason to do so.
Thanks ever so

I thought you weren't supposed to come on to a thread, and describe op as 'creepy' surmise they may be the same op as a previous pervert etc.

But thanks ever so

I can describe any individual post in any way I like as long as it is within talk guidelines

if it isn't, it will be deleted if it is reported

I would describe conflating two separate contributors posts as the same opinion to be a bit "goady" or to be a little bit more charitable "misguided", for example

Poor OP. You sound like a lovely dad and I'm sorry this thread had lost its way and turned into some sort of argument.

I would def take her to the nurse, I'm sure it's normal but worth checking. As pp said she needs to be changing it more than twice a day. I hope that helps.

quelle surprise the typical mumsnet police have turned up and lo behold if you do not fall into line ...how hypocritical of them.. one minute they will tell you how mumsnet is about being supportive to parents and if you happen to not be supporting the OP you are a troll etc. then as judge jury and executioner they can decide the op is a troll or has some malicious intent and if you dare to say otherwise ...well we can all see what that is like.

Good for you AnyFucker

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if you dare to say otherwise ...well we can all see what that is like.

Umm, what is that like? I assume you mean specifically this thread and the posters on it?

Cripes. I'm glad the OP isn't new to MN or he'd have thought he'd walked into the twilight zone.

At least some of the posters have pointed him in the direction of medical care because yes it is too long (though I had similar bleeds in my youth and that was my normal).

I've had to take my 6 year old to the doctors as she's growing pubic hair. She's on puberty watch now so I probably show above acceptable levels (on MN) of interest in potential underarm hair, breast buds, body shape, mood swings, and hopefully will continue to do so for several years until she's of an age to start her periods. Always go and get advice for anything that seems out of the ordinary (My GP was flummoxed and checked his advice to watch and wait for another sign with a paediatric endocrinologist. We're kind of pre-referred now).

Ah, but I'm a mother... female... does that make my interest in my child's development OK?