What time do let your 13yr olds stay out until?

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What time do your 13 yr olds stay out until?

Haha, Brian, I try trust me, I try.
DD'S bf knows to come and say hello, let me read the slogan on his tshirt which I won't understand as I am old, then he takes the cat brush with him to dd's room.
He's actually a lovely lad.

Oh god, to brush the cats, he doesn't brush himself or dd with a cat brush.
That was an unfortunate post

I wouldn't let DS hang out in the park at this time of year. He wanders home with friends after school for an hour or so. Parties seem to finish about 9pm. If he sees his friends it's at the weekend, swimming or something like that.

Absolutely no way would he be allowed to be outside or at a party until 11pm. However he has never asked so it's not a problem. For now.

brillo is 'brushing the cat' a euphemism

Brillo - hilarious 😂

I live rurally so DD doesn't really go out. 2 other kids her age in the village but they are rarely out. if she goes to the next village I pick her up 9.30.

My 13 year old DS is not allowed out in evenings anymore. There were kids just hanging around causing trouble, and i didn't want him to associate with them. Caught my DS smoking and so now spends his evenings with us (family), doing home work and on playstation/tv. He seems fine with that.

So playing out had to end when he finished primary. He now can only go out if going somewhere particular. Working hard on getting him into an activity he'd enjoy and finding him more suitable friends.

DS 15 had to be in by 9 on school nights and was not allowed out on weekends when he was 13. Due to same reasons as above. Long story, but after a year of breaking free he now is in by 10 the latest on school nights, but often comes home at 9. Has to be home at 11.30 weekends.

Doesn't the difference between "playing out" and "hanging around" depend a lot on what they get up to. My 13yo still "plays" when she meets up with one particular friend (they like to mess around in the woods like some sort of feral pair of explorers). But if she went out with other friends they'd probably just loiter on a bench and chat.

My DD is just 14 and on school nights its 830 fri and sat 930.
She wanders around the town, goes to the 24 Tesco and tries the make up or goes to the park to watch football matches.

Dd is 13 and isn't allowed out and about on her own after it gets dark - so about 5pm at the moment (we are literally next door to the school). If she goes to a friends house or has a friend here I am happy to pick up / drop off until about 9pm. If it's something like a special thing - party or cinema trip for a birthday or whatever then I'm fairly laid back about it and don't mind when she comes back as long as she's with the other dds parents or whatever. I don't let her out on her own when it's late.

Dd is 14. She has to be in by 6.30pm in general but may run an errand to the shop until around 7-8pm in the summer.

When I was 14 my friends and I used to go out clubbing
Don't know how the hell we orchestrated it!

Balettgirl, do you live somewhere unsafe?
I asked the same question earlier in the thread, I know, but I just can't comprehend having a 14yr old needing to be in at that time, or can only run an errand so early.
Dd has been in all day, her choice, but her bf of the same age has been here, he's only just left, 5 minutes walk home.

Mine don't 'go out' at all. They can go to parties or to a movie, to a friend's house as long as I know where they are and who else is there, to the beach or pool or to the city or shopping in summer, etc. But young teens and pre teens hanging out with no purpose or not engaged in some organised activity is not done here.

They could play outdoors when they were small and actually played on bikes or skates or went to the pool or the rink, or whatever. But once they got to 12 or so that was the end of it. They got their driver's licences at 16 and some friends usually had a car available so their options increased as far as distance travelled, but there was still no question of just hanging around. 16 is when most got a pt job too.

I never set a curfew for outings or limited their outings, just warned them that if grades started to slip as a result of burning the candle at both ends they would be curtailed, and it was up to them to manage their time, which they did.

I never did a set bedtime either. They were usually tired by about 9ish so that is when they went as children, but as teens they had much more staying power. They are usually up until at least 11.

Do none of the children get homework? Do none of them babysit?

My dd (13) can stay out till 8 on a school night, as long as shes at her BFF's house, I'll then pick her up ( it's about 2 miles) usually about 9 on a weekend- I won't tolerate 'hanging about' on the streets though, a young lad was shot round the corner a couple of weeks ago so that kind of justifies that! Ds (also 13) is asd so doesnt go out as he doesn't have friends they're both in bed by 9 on a school night

Same here Math. We are in London and kids just don't really play out or hang out without it being something organised or somewhere specific, so cinema with friends maybe, activities such as climbing or football. I will drop him off at a friend's house or he will have friends round etc but that's it.

No curfews. No rules other than let us know if / when you think you want picking up and let us know if it changes. I assume DCs can manage their own time and know how much sleep they need. Having said that, we live in a village and (in winter at least) hanging round outside is not that appealing, so generally they are at home.