Treated like an adult
wendmarie · 01/02/2016 19:02
My son is 16 and has said I don't treat him luke an adult. This is because I said no when he wanted to order pizza tonight. His argument is its his money so why can't he do it. My reason was we have bought the food in for our meals in the week so maybe on a Saturday or Friday would be more appropriate especially since he only had pizza on Saturday night which we cooked at home. Any advice would be great
Sparklingbrook · 01/02/2016 19:19
Mmmm, I have a 16 year old too. He has a P/T job so can afford a pizza if he wanted but I would have the same issue as you.
Plus DS2 (14) would have the right hump when it got delivered.
I wish I knew the answer. Sorry not v helpful, this teen business is a learning curve.
PurpleWithRed · 01/02/2016 19:25
Depends on whether he's generally acting in a responsible and adult way, or if he only wants to be like an adult about this pizza and the rest of the time is happy to be a teenager.
LaurieFairyCake · 01/02/2016 19:34
Tell him adults pay bills and start charging him rent/food/bills
Say it with a smile and hopefully he'll shut the fuck up
Sparklingbrook · 01/02/2016 19:36
Was he wanting to order pizza for everyone?
Mitfordhons · 01/02/2016 19:36
I think I'd let my 16 year old do this, what's the harm? Extra food can be frozen or eaten tomorrow.
hesterton · 01/02/2016 19:37
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
BertieBotts · 01/02/2016 19:40
Realistically how often can he afford to buy pizza? I think you should let him, he'll soon find that the money runs out.
BackforGood · 01/02/2016 19:48
I'd have gone for a "I've already cooked for tonight, but if you want to spend your money on that another night, let me know and I won't cook for you". Sorted - you aren't just saying no for no reason, but you aren't letting him ignore the fact you'd sorted the food for tonight.
wendmarie · 01/02/2016 19:53
It's his own money which he earns by helping around the house. He only wanted to order the pizza for himself and I did explain it's not cheap if he were to keep ordering. Really don't mind at the weekends but not when we're all sitting down to dinner sun to thurs so think it's a good compromise
frenchfancy · 02/02/2016 08:59
I work on the basis that if an Adult in the house wanted to order pizza then they would order for everyone in the house, and they would do it before any food had been prepared for that night. If he wants to pay for everyone then he gets treated like an adult.
TwoTooManyKidz · 02/02/2016 12:47
I'd freeze his dinner for another day and tell him to go somewhere out the house where he can eat it away from everybody else.
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