15 year old dealing weed . Hand holding pls

[notmrscookie]

Posted before 15 yr old doing weed.Now he moved on to dealing I thought he had but have now found the kitbag is scales, new bags and list of drop of points. Social services are support .School got young person substance abuse advisor in. Son refused to see him.Been stopped and search and and had weed taken. Doesn't care will smash house up , steal and lie . Stbxh ak Mr cool daddy doesn't care and gives him money on his weekends goes out and gets drunk and leaves him home alone. Other parents are in denial and if I go to police everyone will hate me but my home is smashed up and not a home. Nothing safe and son is off his head. What can I do. Medatuon refused by ex. I need to be strong and make that call ad be hated. Help !

Was he dealing at school?

DD's school has a zero tolerance policy over drugs and students get permanently excluded.

I'm inclined to agree that the police need to be involved. A criminal record for dealing weed might turn out to be better than the alternative.

The it thing is they are all in it together .They will have dealing bag some nights .itslike they are all on call one night each .but my son is the ring leader in there eyes. They are all doing it because they chose to . Dad has walked away and new girlfriend doesn't want anything to do with son. He is too busy playing happy families . social services see bit as I am in control .They did this question thing and I scored as OK .. I have called them over 25 times . The police came and I gave statements then they told no support between him being arrested and charged and he would be released on bail back to me .. Not housed and supported by SS . My house has already been destroyed enough .I had to repair doors.smashed picture frames .forced windows broken locks.. .

As far as the law goes, if the house is in your name you can be charged with having drugs in your property - having said that I think it's one of those laws which is never enacted. If you don't want to phone the police, phone social services again. Wannabes advice is good. If you refuse to have him social services will probably approach his dad to have him - and then it will be them arguing for it not you.

There is a group of them and they each take a night of being on call so to speak with the dealer bag.. I have called child protection and said I don't want son Asked if they do mediation to get his dad to have him. They replied no .if I locked him out he would go to mates house and then break back in when I went to work. I am lumbered unless I die living this life . I send nights rooming the street or awaiting for him to come in at 3 being shouted out, stolen from .

School had complaints from parents but it seems they haven't caught him and his school don't do bag searches. Also he is a very good sports person and winning is higher up on school list . I had to report my son to county football and sports so they were aware as son used these as excuse to get out of grounding and then spend time selling .Any excuse to get money and then not spend it where he said it ways. .

Gosh, I feel so very sorry you are in this situation and it appears little/no support.I don't understand why SS cannot help if he is 15? Your own mental health must be in tatters, can you see a GP, get some support, help there? I know what it's like when a 'Dad' refuses to help as well. It must be soul destroying. Weed has caused my own family heartache, its just rife everywhere for young teens and when they get caught up in it, they have no idea the trouble and anxiety it can cause. I really feel your pain x

Please go to the police. When he is released say he cannot return home. Tough love is the only thing that will work. Give the police his dad's details and ask the, to contact him in future.

I think regardless of other people saying don't mess up his life, he is spiralling out of control. If you don't contact the police it's likely he could move on to stronger drugs and be old enough to be charged as an adult. It's hard as hell, but you have nothing to lose by contacting police. If you can give them the info of when he has the bag for dealing you can get him started with the help he really needs.

Once he is arrested you have to refuse to attend and refuse to have him home. It's tough I know but it works. Then you have to stop him breaking in.... Ss will have to deal with it but you have to force their hand..

I'm sure you're feeling as though calling the police is a bad move, and I see at least one person has told you not to and has advised you to keep throwing his 'stash' away, but let's explore a few things first (and for context, I found a big bag of other little 'baggies' of weed in my 15yr old nephew's school bag this morning - so after work I will be having a very long talk with him)...

However, let's unpack this:

1. You don't call the police and keep finding and throwing it away...

He will simply become better at hiding it until he is able to continue without you knowing.

1. Seeing as he is able to continue...

The money he is making from it isn't all that great and in order to make more he gets more or starts dealing in class A drugs instead as the potential monetary yield holds a better return. But, there is more risk involved and potentially greater chance of getting shot or stabbed or killed by any rivals or rival dealers.

There's probably more points to explore but if left unchecked he will graduate to new 'lower' heights.

Tonight, I'm bringing my son with me so I'll have both boys in the room, plus two of my cousins who have kids themselves (in case I need reigning in).
My nephew will have two choices:

• Tell me everything, who and where he gets it from and that person/s number
• Tell me nothing and we call the police there and then (as I have at least £260 of weed 'street value' sitting in the house). I may very well decrease flush most of it and keep a single bag so the police have evidence when they arrive if the conversation goes that way.

I'm sure there are some great Youth Offending Workers out there, and I've actually worked with many of them in North London in a previous career, but I've also worked many cases with similar circumstances and it's the cold hard shock of a massive consequence that usually gets these children listening.

Crikey this is every parents nightmare, poor you.

Wannabe how awful for your son. A psychotic breakdown. If there were any justice OPs son would be made work in a psychiatric hospital for two years, to see the effects.

I'm in expert. But it does sound like this boy is only going to get worse. He's in deep already and so young. A big, big consequence is worth a try isn't it? What is the alternative? There doesn't seem to be one.

I'm no expert -sorry!

Its no better .in fact worse I had my bathroom decorated last year with this cladding. It cost

Its no better.He caused over 1000 worth of damage to my bathroom by smashing a new bit of paneling because I wanted him to go to school.. Found out he applied to do the same course at college as all his druggie mates. I am just counting down to June when he is 16 ad exam finished . Then he out .I don't care where but he is gone. I chucked him out to his dads but he came back after 2 days.