Have had a very difficult two years with DD (almost 18) including MH issues. She has dropped out of school and college, and so far lost or given up two jobs. Today she started another job. I made up my mind to stay well out of the way but of course when she wasn't up with only half hour to go I went in. She was awake but laying in bed like a limp thing and said she might need a lift. I said I didn't mind if it would help with the anxiety but I wasn't doing it just so she could have another ten mins in bed so if she wanted a lift she needed to get up. Ten mins later she still wasn't up so I told her she was on her own and could get the bus. Roll on another 15 mins, first bus gone and she gets up. DH then offers to run her in (not undermining - had checked with me first) but points out they'd need to leave straight away. She then starts screaming and crying saying she has to do her makeup and that she'll get the bus. At this point we both back right off and leave her to it. She sobs a bit, does make up and gets bus. She will be at least 30 mins late on her first day and have very red eyes. Wishing now we had just left her to it. She would have been late but maybe without the tears and certainly less stress for us. The thing is, she is really anxious, and it almost feels as if she generates a row so she can get angry and upset at which point she seems to be able to get out the door. I'm really angry now as DH and I were both trying to be supportive but somehow I feel we made it worse. Not sure why I'm posting this. I think I want some very un-MN sympathy but feel free to bollock me if you think that would be more helpful.