My 13 year old daughter has an older boyfriend

[St4cey32]

Hi all, I'm new here but I need someone to talk to I'm going out of my mind here. I found out on Tuesday my 13 year old dd has been seeing a boy who is 17! I couldn't believe it I was devastated. First of all when I confronted her about it she said they had only been talking but after I kept on at her she told me they had met up twice in town, she swears to me they haven't done anything (sexual) but I don't know if I believe her. Since I found out I've not let her out of my sight wherever I've gone she has had to go. I don't know what to do. Should I chat in depth to her and tell her under no circumstances is she to go meet him again as she is a teenager and will probably see him behind my back anyway. I just don't know what to do she's not a very talkative teenager but it just breaks my heart that she could go behind my back like this and I've had to find out off her friends about this boy

I personally would invite him round for tea.and whilst he is there start asking some polite but awkward questions

I would try and keep her as busy as possible at home and restrict her going outs as much as possible under the pretext she has homework/club, needs to help me with housework etc. I would not bring the issue up too much as she may get more determined to see him or will rebel at a later stage. My advice would be to tackle this issue calmly and to be very alert as to what she is doing from now on, who she is talking to etc. If it happens again, i.e she goes and meets him again, then I would act a bit more aggressively, but until then will probably give her the benefit of the doubt. They have only met in town twice, it may have been just an innocent, friendly chat.