14 year old girls with older boy friends

[macaddict]

Am I just being old fashioned but is it ok that my 14 year old dd has a lot of older boys as friends and thinks I am mean when I say no to sleepovers with both boys and girls. Often her friends are allowed on these sleepovers and apparently I am the only one who says no. I don't mind a sleepover with just girls but think mixed groups at this age is inappropriate. Why are the boys mothers letting them have 14 year old girls to stay in the first place?. Why don't 17 year old boys hang out with 17 year old girls instead?

DS 15 (nearly 16) has a 14 (nearly 15) girlfriend. No way on mixed sleepovers. Indeed bad behaviour on boy only sleepovers makes us wary.

I am also mother from hell as I also say no! DD has lots of 16 and 17 year old friends (she's 14). Her boyfriends 16. I just don't agree she said I'm sexist

I think you are right, it doesn't sit comfortably with me either so if it makes me unpopular so be it. I know exactly what 14/15 year olds are capable of getting up to as I remember being that age myself like it was yesterday and I am not as naive as my parents were!

You're not old fashioned.

I'm a youngish mum of a teenager and there's not a chance in hell I'd allow this. When I was a teen in the 90s no one had these mixed sleepovers. Why do teens these days want them?

I was fifteen when I met my 21 yr old boyfriend. He wasn't allowed to stay until I turned 16, but we were together for 6 very happy years.
I'm not sure I'd be as relaxed about that as my own mum was, but it depends entirely on the young people in question, largely how mature they are.

thanks for the reassurance, glad it's not just me. DD is grounded for a week now, she told me she was sleeping at a friends house and they ended up changing plans and sleeping elsewhere last minute without telling me; I was not happy. Good tip- we have 'find my iPhone' on dd's phone which means if she has her phone with her we can always see where she is. You are right I know exactly what I was like at 14 and dh knows exactly what he was like as a 17 yr old.