Allowing teenager to take alcohol to a party

[TheSecondOfHerName]

At what age would you allow your teenager to take alcohol to a party at a friend's house? Obviously it's fine for an 18 or 19 year old, and I'm guessing that not many parents would be OK if it's a 13 year old.

I'm asking if there is a middle ground. 15 year old has asked to take a couple of bottles of beer to a friend's party and we said no. Is there a point before 18 at which it would be reasonable to start saying yes? If so, when?

My neighbours year 10 dd had a party two weeks ago. I can only think it made her very popular at the local comp as unbelievably she had another one last night. This time It felt like most of the school was here. Her Mum and dad have a drink problem so I think they are letting her do what she wants. To watch what went on horrified me. I was thinking where do your parents think you all are. They spent the whole night running up and down the stairs, on both balconies screaming at each other with music blasting. The girls were literally laying drunk In The road. lots of kids went off In pairs as we live next to a park. At one stage they were on balcony screaming and laughing "look she's giving him head" . Then someone had a knife and chased another boy. 15 others mostly girls then Chased behind them. It was absolute mayhem. Kids were coming out not even knowing where they were. we live in a really good area. Once the knife situation happened we had had enough and the police turned up very quickly.

Fucking hell. Glad the police arrived. I'm really not pleased with both my two drinking at all but with parents like you describe what hope do we have? Great examples of parents.

Was this in the UK?

14/15 on softer booze, alcopop type things. 16/17 for spirits.

DD was 16, but most of her friends were earlier. She wasn't interested before that thank goodness.

I have said a definite NO to house parties (presuming, perhaps wrongly, these are the only ones they can take alcohol to) until at least she turns 16. She knows my view on this and does not even ask.
My DD just turned 15, so I hopefully have a few more months to breathe easy.

I didn't give DD alcohol to take to parties, but when she got a lift to a party with another parent, they offered to stop at an off licence on the way to buy her something. I think she was more shocked than I was and explained she had a bottle of cola in her bag (guaranteed to make her loopy anyway).

About halfway through year 11 was when it started here. With vodka.... Now at sixth form it's beer or cider thankfully.