We've had a really rough ride with DD17 over the last 18 months including self-harm, an OD, eating disorder, drinking and dropping out of school. She managed to get a job but lost it fairly quickly through not turning up - she has managed to get another one but hasn't started yet. I did feel things were improving and she seemed a bit happier but today I did a bit of digging and now I think things are as bad as ever. She is posting stuff online that shows she is still intent on losing weight (she's already underweight) and feels she is ugly, useless etc, and she is also now contacting men online - no idea how often or under what guises but I overheard a conversation on the phone earlier that sounded very flirtatious at best. Also I'm pretty sure she's taking something though she denies it. I simply don't know what to do to help her feel better about herself. I should add that she's not difficult to live with - mostly pleasant and co-operative but lacks energy and gets anxious when leaving the house. Doesn't really have friends and spends her whole life online. I really feel like her life is pretty miserable and I'm not surprised she feels crap most of the time but it's like she's accepted feeling crap and is choosing to do stuff that will make it worse. If I confront her about what I've found I think we'll just have an almighty row - she never wants to talk about any of it. I really thought things were getting better and I don't know what to do.