My DS was diagnosed age 11, he's now 15. Separated from his Dad at 3 he has gone to live with him in the past 3 weeks because of 2years of increasing physical and verbal abuse to me.
he is bright but has a really hard time at school, sometimes refuses to go,I always got him in but his Dad says it's his choice. Communication is zero between his Dad and myself ,he will only allow email or text but often doesn't read them and is extremely hostile and negative about me.It used to upset my DS but he is now mirroring this behaviour.
DS was prescribed Prozac for anxiety and depression stopped taking it in June because of side effects,that and some family therapy had stopped the violence.
Im feeling really frozen out of being able to parent him although his Dad says he doesn't want him full time(he was recently given a 3bed council house on this basis)
DS just spent sat night with me and friends but has been verbally and physically aggressive and I've had to take him back,he doesn't want to do anything except sit in a dark room on his computer. I feel extremely anxious around him.
I to be able to get him out to do sport with persuasion and he felt so much better for it.His Dad allows him to make more choices (sit in his room all,day) and expects him to be responsible for his clothes/washing etc.He smelt very bad(not B.o) more like cabbage and his clothes were very dirty..
he's obviously got GCSEs this year ,but he was too anxious to sit his mocks and I just don't know what's going to happen to him.
he is obsessed with drugs, researches them online,follows groups on Facebook about weed(his dad used to be a grower/dealer) ,I don't think he is taking them but is incredibly immature and convinced he should be self medicating with psychedelics etc
he is starting weekly sessions with a counsellor at CAHMS but doesn't really know why.Im so upset that I can't find any neutral ground to communicate or any conversation and miss him living here but it's just not safe for me.
I'm worried about his future but between him and his Dad I have been put into a role of needy,controlling mother.