My 17 year old has a history of missing school - it's been years of off and on. Now he's asked to go back and redo AS levels, after taking a year out. He said he realised he needed them, and this time would make it work. But it's the same old story. He is risking his whole education, and we are unable to make him take responsibility. Dreading him being asked to leave the college - because then what? Want to support him, as he finds school environment difficult, clearly - but at the same time, how to put up with this total lack of motivation and respect for us and his teachers? For how long - till he's 30? Fear that he will never be able to hold down a job - he falls out with everyone, has terrible attitude towards authority. It's affecting our own mental state so badly too - we are at a complete loss. We've tried psychologists (refusal to go), home schooling, mentors - but he shows no interest, or cannot sustain it. His promises now mean nothing - empty words.
But do we stand back and let him become a complete drop out? How do we live with this situation?