never ending drama ! :(

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Ok, so I am totally open to any advice suggestions, anything, just need opinions please, I have a 15 yo ds (eldest of 4), for the past 2 years family life has been a rollercoaster, I love him dearly but boundaries are being pushed to the extreme, and I feel at my wits end. Today I've had yet another call from school he's being sent home (this is an every week occurrence)I know that before the years out he will be kicked out, he doesn't care, he's no ambition, not bothered that school behaviour will affect him in later life, so here's the thing, do I move schools, do I let him live with his dad..?(he's always threatening to "go to my dad's" if it doesn't get his own way)...long story short it's affecting everybody in the house what do I do for the best?..Thanks in advance.

Is there a reason why he can't live with his dad? Will his dad set appropriate boundaries and be a good role model? Then maybe that is the solution to giving the rest of your family a break from the situation.

What puts me off is its in a crap area, there are no prospects for school leavers or jobs, and without sounding unkind his dad is not the sharpest tool in the box, and I would worry that he will just be left to get on left to his own devices, (doing things he shouldn't be whilst his dad is at work)..I don't drive so if some sort of crisis occured I couldn't get to him quick enough..xx

If you can afford it would he agree to seeing a counsellor?

Would he talk about what's bothering him with a grandparent perhaps?

I'm not sure he would, I get its an age thing and that being the eldest is no fun.
But just simple tasks like being on time, or sticking to a arrangement, he just seems to be under the impression he's above every one and everything, he's not aggressive, or unpleasent just so laid back its almost horizontal..Oh "the joys" of being a parent to a teenager!
Will certainly give it a shot tho, thank you .