Ds, 13.5 has always been 'a clam' as in tight lipped, from day one with my dh and myself. Even when he was very young, he'd sit and look out the window ('watching nature') or after nursery he'd sit in his car seat and just look out the window, very little conversation.
Don't get me wrong - he 'can' speak and does...but not very much 'conversation wise', very one worded answers, etc. He has confided in us in the past, but very rarely. When I wanted to find out what was going on in school (he is very well liked, is not bullied and never was, yes, for sure) I would ask one of my friend's girls and she would tell me more in 10 minutes than ds would tell me in a school year about what was going on.
He has friends at school, and a few really close friends and when they get together he does blab (especially if he has a rare soda with caffeine!). In fact, he likes to be the class clown, so he's not antisocial!
Now that he's 13.5, I can see the high school years coming and, I hate to say it, but I hardly know my own son! He's very private with information, would never tell me if he liked a girl (he as much told us so), and I've tried, and am exhausted by trying to ask open-ended questions. It has been an exhausting 13 years trying to carry on a conversation with this boy (but like I said he will talk to friends). He's very analytical, and very no-nonsense. He's our only child, and I see the years draining away and I'm afraid he's going to be at University and I'm hardly going to know my own son.
Please tell me I'm not alone in this. If he is very, very excited about something he will carry on a conversation - unfortunately he's Very technical and I'm not at all. I have five short years until he's off at University, if I hardly know him now, are these years just going to fly by and I will not really 'know' him? Thanks for listening to my very long post.