Teenage party and neighbours

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DS invited 10 friends around for a movie night tonight - girls and boys. Film finished at around 9:30 so they put some music on and started singing.

9:45 and they were all hot so stepped outside to cool down. They were chatting but not loud - I could only just hear them chatting/laughing. As they stepped out of the house ndn came out and asked them to turn the musc down/quieten down.

Am I wrong in thinking ndn was being a bit over the top? Just for background the last party the kids had was last summer so it's definitely not a regular thing. Ndn was very nice about it - but really? Kids have been to similar nights at friends houses and none of their neighbours have ever said anything. Kids all told ther parents about it when they were collected and all their parents were a bit

All kids left before 10pm btw.

Ndn moved in about 5 years ago. Before them the family had teenagers - their parties went on til about 4am but as it was once a year we put up with it.

Anyway...their kids wil grow up and in 10 years time when their kids are teenagers I'll just give them a raised eyebrow when their kids have parties...

Complained before midnight on a Friday night? I think they're being U. People have occasional parties, that's life.

I don't think people normally start worrying about party noise until after 11pm. So yes, they are being a bit precious.

Thanks - I did begin to wonder...

Thing is my kids are considerate at other times as they know ndn has little children. So I feel a bit more aggrieved that they came around so early to complain.

I can't stand party noise but I'd wait until 11 before suggesting 'belt up or go somewhere else'.

as it was all done by 10pm that seems reasonable - BUT your neighbour didn't know how long it would go on, the sound of kids singing is painful and with small kids they might be in for an early start.

so the answer is to manage expectations; 'we are having a party but we'll be done by 10pm, apologies in advance but we won't be doing this often'. This gets rid of the terror that it is going to go on all night.

10:00 I definitely think they were being unreasonable. At our last house though our ndn would have parties and loud music to us and it was how the two houses were set up. We'd go over there and the music would be softer than it would be at our own house - they didn't know we'd be coming over and they didn't turn it down - it was all back garden/window placement.

But we left it until after midnight, and this was Every weekend, both Friday and Saturday and during the day (they were swingers, I think - really). So I think once in awhile and at only 10:00 was way over the top.

Depends on circumstances ... Being devil's advocate, I have noise anxiety and some noise can be worse to cope with than others, especially when you don't know how long it's going to go on for, and if you're unwell or have people/children needing sleep. We also live somewhere where noise projects weirdly and can be louder in our flat than it is outside, I have no idea how that works.????So I'm not saying your neighbour wasn't being unreasonable, but maybe it didn't feel like just a little sing-song to them? Maybe they used to live next to nightmare neighbours like we did where that would have just been the start of an all night thudding party?????On the plus side if they live next door to you for another decade or so you definitely get to shush their teens when they're bothersome too!

But as a ps to the long one above, maybe let them know in future that there'll be a party and it'll definitely quiet down by 11? Not that you should have to do that, but it might be good neighbourly relations and stop any embarrassment for the teens in future?