I just wanted to share (and possibly brag a bit!).. After two years of living in the hell of an out of control daughter I can now announce that things are MUCH better! I just wanted to come and say to other parents that it does get better. I took a lot of advice from this group, some I ignored and some I felt just didn't fit our situation. Firstly I have found that easing up on my daughter stooped the cycle of fights and arguments. She has been back home for two months now after staying with close family, She is like a different girl! I think she realised that home wasn't so bad! It was difficult to loosen the reigns and yes she did get into a state through drinking, however, since then I think she learnt her lesson. She is at school full time, managed to get her expected GCSE grades and is now in her final year at school.. I seriously never thought it would happen, yes she still gets into scraps, mainly due to dying her hair blue and getting caught smoking at school. but we are communicating and the house is a lot calmer and a nice place to be now, even the younger ones have commented on the change in her. I occasionally get a glimpse of the young woman she is turning into and you know what, I really like her now lol I have even come so accept her nose ring!. So if there are any other parents who are pulling their hair out with their teenage drama queens rest assured you do come out the other end, a little bit scarred but more wiser! :)