has anybody had to get their teen 16yrs + leave the family home

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hi,didnt quite know how to word but bluntly has anybody had to kick their teen out of the family home due to their behaviour etc

how did it go??

did it make any differrence??

the general experience really

Hi there
My parents actually took my 16 year old to live with them as they could see the behaviour was out of hand and this was due to my child been in with the wrong crowd, and drugs became involved, and they felt it would be best for us to be apart (the behaviour had been getting worse for nearly a year and I had tried everything)
I felt absolutely horrible that it happened, but it was for the best.
I had tried everything, social services were involved (they werent any help though if im honest) other agencies were also involved.
My child stayed with them for almost a year and i saw my child at their house and then gradually at mine for weekends etc.
It was hard, but it helped massively.
My child is back with me now, and Im so grateful to my parents.

I wish you so much luck with this....... i never believed people that said "It will get better!"...... but it does xx

thank you so much for replying and sharing your experiences

its the hardest thing ever parenting a teen that is out of control and seems so little help in RL

SS dont really seem to do much,why is this ??

Ive no idea really! I was on phone to them one day when my child was having a serious meltdown, and they knew my child was self harming too, and they said to just phone police. I know this is the advice they give but i feel this wouldnt have helped at all.
I wrongly slapped my child across the face for the abuse I was getting, and my child had been physical with me too, and on telling social services this, they said they would be sending someone around to see me as I had hit a child. I am still waiting for them to come......and that was last summer!

no they dont seem to keen to get involved

Yes! We'd had enough of his 'Lifestyle' choices i.e leaving a civil engineering college course, drugs, drinking, i'll come home when I please, cant be arsed to look for a job or contribute in any way attitude. So after threatening him many times, I actually took the bull by the horns, threw all his stuff ( what was left of it anyway after he sold all his stuff tablet, iphone etc to buy drugs) into a black bag and presented it to him after he decided to come home after staying out for 48 hours & no contact. Off he went and I closed the door and felt dreadful! However I knew that I had to stick to my word. I kept tabs on him via FB and eventually found out that he was at the YMCA. No phone calls made or received. In the coming months he got in touch to say that the YMCA had thrown him out and he was moving in somewhere else and then another text to say that he had been thrown out of that accommodation too! Months later and with no contact he phoned to say that he had got on a training scheme and that a local charity had provided a bedsit. We provided all the stuff needed to keep him there incl a TV & plenty of food. It was hard going, and the training company made many calls to me if he didn't turn in. Eventually he started coming over at the weekend for Sunday lunch etc and over the coming weeks there was a definite change. He was getting up on time, making his meals and totally cut himself off from the gang he was messing around with. Then he got himself an apprenticeship in Construction Engineering and hey presto....can I come home mum? That was nearly 12 months ago and at the moment all is good, he's still lazy but thats fine, he's had a huge learning curve and he says I did the right thing. It could have turned out worse I guess but that was a chance I had to take and we are all better off for it!! Hope everything goes well for you x

Yes unfortunately I have had to put my son in foster care as he assaulted me and tried to stab my 9 year old dd he has been in the care system for nearly a year and is in even worse :( :(

thank you so much for being open and honest about your situations,it sounds fairly similar to my situation

i really appreciate all for being honest,its the worst feeling ever

small glad its working out

whohasnickedmyvodka on god that sounds terrible,how does he find care?how old is he ?

i do understand if you dont want to answer,you are a very brave person for standing up to him and protecting your dd

He likes the freedom of no rules he is in an open door setting but still comes and demands money of me every week when he has spent the ??65 he is given every week and kicks off if I say no he has sold all his expensive possessions I have bought him for weed

My ds will be 18 in November he was kicked out of college last year

your ds sounds like mine,

mine is staying with a friend been there 4wks, while they ss try to get him into a house that is for boys,they have their own room but get meals provided,they have a worker there 24/7

he wants to come home but hes violent and manipulative,steals etc etc and thinks he is the man of the house,he kicked of two days ago here and police called im refusing to let him visit now

he dosent want to go and i pray a place comes up,speaking to his ss tomorrow

does that sound a similar place to what your son is in,mine is only 16

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