Teen sex...

[Whyarealltheusernamestaken]

When you find our your just turned 14 year old is having sex....what do you do?

How did they have the opportunity? Have you discussed sex with them? The consequences?

I have a 14 yr old who's not yet had a first kiss even so I would be really shocked, upset, disappointed, worried, angry. With them and their partner.

A girl in the same year at school had a baby in march. But there's rumours that was the result of abuse.

How did you react?

Firstly, try not to freak out. I had sex for the first time at 14 and I promise you, I'm a fully functioning, law abiding 40 something. But, oh how I wish I could have turned to my Mum back then! I was literally lost in a sea of hormones. I love my parents to bits and think they were amazing parents, but when it comes to the teenage years, I know I'm doing a better job than they did at it. Although, obviously my own children may disagree!

Secondly, if they're going to do it, make sure they are safe.

Sorry, pressed send too soon.
Thirdly, TALK TO THEM!!! And tell them, just because they've done it once, doesn't mean they have to do it again.

I would talk to them, don't get upset but have a calm conversation about why they wanted to, how they feel now and about safe sex.
The worst thing you can do is get into an argument as that would drive them away, you want them to be open with you.
I hope your ok my children are still very young but I think having a open non judgemental conversation is what I would do.