OMFG. to use the vernacular

[DirtyDeedsDoneGood]

DD1 15 doesn't live with me but lives with her Dad and her paternal GPs Yes I know its not the norm but too long a story to go into.

Friday as was arranged they all came to visit me for the weekend. Everything was going well until at a pub lunch yesterday exDP asked me for a private chat, as this is very unusual the alarm bells started ringing. We went to sit in my car and he went on to say that things were going to change enormously in the next year or so. I thought that he was going to say that they had a house move on the cards and would be returning to my locality. They moved 200 miles away about 5 years ago. I was getting all excited at the prospect when he dropped the bombshell that DD1 is pg. Apparently 13 weeks pg

I have spoken to DD and she's really happy about the whole thing. Her bf who is 18 is also over the moon. Paternal GPs say they will look after the child so DD can carry on with her studies.
They've just left all happy in cloud cuckoo land and I'm fucking reeling and not knowing what to think or do.
Thing is nobody told me, and they all knew. Think I'm in shock! I'm 33 coming up 34 fgs. I've made a real mess of my whole life and now this.
Any thoughts?

I can see what an awful shock it must be, but it sounds like she's got lots of support. All you can do is let her know that you're there for her too

fucking hell. if your DD is genuinely really happy you've got to go with it.

is there chance for you to have a chat in private and see if the story is the same. I hope she's not been brainwashed by the people around her. they sound all very happy for a 15 year old up the duff.

icouldjusteatcroissant
Yes they are overly pleased, thing is I have always talked to her about contraception etc and now she's 13 weeks.
They will not get home until later so I will ring her very late tonight and have a chat. At the moment she seems to be overjoyed but not sure if she realises what's involved. I'm thinking her Granny would like a baby
I'm in total shock and don't know what to do.

ring her and see what she says in private.

one thing though, no alcohol before you ring her, save it for after

I don't drink so no problem there, but Jesus its looking like I'm going to be Gran at 34 and she a teenage Mum like me.What a mess.

Ex dp said he would go into her school and speak to her head teacher. I knew she was seeing someone from school but was given the impression he was around her age.
Not possible to have a coffee with her yet as they live in the North East and I'm in the South West. I shall ask for time off so I can go and see her.
Just reeling at the moment unsure what to think. Can't stop the tears I wish I'd nnot messed up I thought she was fine with her Dad

I realise you are probably in some kind of shock

what support will the 18 year old father be providing does he have a job ?

Big responsibility for these to be parents

So she's chosen to have a baby almost as early as you did?

Must be a real shock

can you give us an update please?