GCSE disappointments

[Travelledtheworld]

How are you all coping with those results that weren't as expected, or confirmed your worst fears ?

DD scraped through the necessary subjects and will get into sixth form of her choice. But very mediocre results reflect total lack of effort and minimal revision over the past two years. All her friends got high grades and are leaping around with excitement.

She is a sweet and loving child. She is sitting huddled on her bed with a hoody pulled over her head. Obviously pretty miserable.

I didn't say a lot. Congratulated her on the one A grade. Avoided saying "told you so". Offered her Lunch but it was refused. Not sure what else I can do except be around and give a diplomatic answer when relatives phone this evening.....

My son got all C's and D's, including a D in English Language. Not good, not good at all. He isn't even here - he is away on a government youth action scheme, so I won't see him until Saturday.

It wasn't totally unexpected to be honest. He was at a very good school academically speaking. It's a selective/grammar school, so he passed the entrance exam 5 years ago. He just seems so......unmotivated, by anything. Getting him to do any homework was always a battle, and as for extra work or revision, it only happened when I got on his case.

I still feel a bit sick in my stomach whenever I think about it, because I am worried about him. Part of me wants to give him a massive bollocking, to scream and rant at him for being such a lazy twat. But that won't get me anywhere. I don't really know what to do.

I feel your frustration. Mine got a maths b and the 7 c grade's, and an english d with effort could of been better.
Dh thinks he's too cocky and needs a reality check. This comes from the step father who's spoilt him rotten for 13 years.
He now has to beg for a place on an electrical engineering course or drop to a lower level. They don't have the same attitude these days. But I am 50 soon.

Ok so she didn't do her best, but she DID get into her 6th form of choice. That is a wonderful thing! Her plans haven't been disrupted by this, that is really important.

This could be a good lesson for her, maybe she can learn from this and realize how disappointing it is not to do as well as she wanted. Maybe now she has the opportunity to study what she really wants and a fewer number of subjects, she can change her attitude and make some changes.

What's done is done now, you can all start again with this and look forward to the future focusing on the positive. Sorry shes huddling upstairs, it's horrible seeing them miserable and disappointed

Dd failed everything except English (B) and drama (B) (and the ECDL).

That's where 5 years of not working AT ALL, regular internal exclusions, truanting, 100% failure to revise, gets you. Ditto for three of her friends who (astonishingly) did even worse.

There have been tears. (her and friends, not me).

The really galling thing is that she could have done all that arsing around and still have passed 5 GCSE's including science, maths and English - she got a D in Biology, maths and English lit which she could have bumped up easily to a 'C' except she couldn't be arsed to get out of bed and attend the revision sessions the school put on last term or do any last minute study.

She's all repentant now but I doubt it'll translate into 'more effort'.

Just hoping that the apprenticeship she has applied for comes through. It's nearly in the bag - just one more assessment to do (4 part selection process and she's got through the first 3) .

If the apprenticeship falls through I don't know what will come next. She's adamant she won't return to school/college.

for Nicole.

My son wouldn't even go in to see whats he got (sigh).

Never thought I'd say this, but really wish other people wouldn't post stuff on FB how great their DC did. I mean specifics like the picture of the paper full of As & A*s and "Wow they both did fantastic!" statements when you know that isn't because they worked hard to get CCCBB just piss off the lot of yuz

She's just had another look at the results paper and now thinks she got a C in RE too.

Your son should get his results - who knows, he might get a pleasant surprise.

I've got no patience with the tears and the drama.

She hasn't given two shits about academic success for the past 5 years, so I really find it hard to commiserate now her academic failure is there on a piece of paper in black and white. She seems bizarrely shocked and put out by her results. As does her lazy, school dodging friend.

It's like when a toddler up-ends a bowl of water over their head and then stands there angry and crying because they're wet and cold.

I keep wanting to say 'well, DUH!'

Although I didn't expect her to do particularly well, I wasn't prepared for the disappointment I am feeling, feel slightly sick, and jealous, yes jealous of all those households who are having bit celebratory parties and meals this evening. We are just getting on quietly as usual.

YesYeOldTrout understand exactly what you mean by the Facebook posts now.....

DD is playing Grand Theft Auto, oblivious to my hurt and ignoring all the Facebook posts from her 8 grade A starred school friends.......

My DD passed only 2, both of the English ones, all others were D's, F's and a U. She is desperately disappointed, I think between taking the exams and now she'd forgotten how little work she had done and convinced herself she had passed them all! I on the other hand feel it's a fair reflection of what work she did. In her defence in the last year she has had to cope with her dad leaving us and moving in with OW and her (DD's) subsequent overdose and mental health diagnosis of severe clinical depression. i have therefore put these results into perspective and I am just grateful she is still with me and know she will eventually succeed in life with or without good results!

My DS got four C's and the rest D's - he didn't work very hard for most of his school career but then did put a lot of effort into his final year (struggles with dyslexia). He was expecting a little better in some subjects and is trying hard not to be disappointed, which makes me feel a bit tearful for him. I'm hoping he can get on some alternative courses at college that will actually be of some use/interest to him. English resit will be one....

My daughter got an A in history, B's in English language and English literature and then 6 c's. They're good grades and the important thing is they get her into the right a level courses that she plans to do. She admits herself that she didn't work as hard as she could have and was disappointed to watch her friends get all a's and a*'s, especially as these were her target grades. My take on it is that while it's hard to see her disappointment now is the time to learn from it and work harder. I sat in the car park watching the kids go in for results and it was gut wrenching, they're only discovering who they are and have spent the last 5 yrs being told their life depends on these results when we all know that isn't strictly true.

Not much consolation to you all but dd did well last year & completely bombed ASs. Her friends who didn't do as well worked harder and did way way better. She can't apply to some universities now as her grades were too bad & she'll have to retake almost everything.

I hope your dcs cope with any disappointments & then settle down well to whatever they choose to do next year.

My son got 3 gcse's , maths and two science ( C, B, C) he did no work at all, but seems surprised. He was rejected by the course(s) he wanted and is so upset he has gone AWOL with his equally useless girlfriend. So we can sort nothing out. I am angry, disappointed frustrated and fed up. He also list his pt job for being unreliable.

What a joke.

My anxious, depressed school-refusing DS1 with aspergers got a B in English Lit (got an A* in Language last year) a D in maths and E's in science and Art. All with approx one term of home tuition after the local authority finally conceded that the PRU they tried to send him to was making his mental health worse.

When he failed Maths functional skills last year he went into a three day suicidal dip, so I've been incredibly worried about how he will cope.

He woke me up at 4AM to tell me his plan. He'll retake maths in November and pass, retake Art next June and pass (He has detailed plans for portfolio etc.) and will start self-tutoring/ me-tutoring English language and literature at A level while we wait for the Local Authority to finally get a EHCP in place.

DS2 got 2As and 8Bs. I'm just as proud of each of them (but DS1 could have put a bit more work in and it's useful for him to realise it won't all just fall in his lap because of his disabilities and he still has to work at it, probably harder than non-spec kids (sorry if that sounds harsh, I'm a bit disappointed to be honest and am looking at home tuition while holding down full time job with absolute horror.)

lilybetsy have some

snapespeare good luck with those plans.