16 year old DS and 18 yr old GF

[lemonstartree]

would you let them sleep together under your roof ?

They have been together more than a year, and seem to have a good relatoonship. I know they sleep together elsewhere and have discussed contraception openly with them both. I personally think its ok; DS' father thinsk i ma being irresponsible - There are two younger DS at home - DS1 and GF sleep in the sumer house if she says over, Its not more than once a week really

nope

you will probably gets lots of posters saying that you must facilitate your son's sex under your roof life though so they don't start shagging in bus shelters and the like

that's an unusual combination at this age

sex life

Oh, I killed your thread. Sorry.

Makes a change AF it's normally me

They're both if legal age and from what you've said seem responsible. Why wouldn't you treat them responsibly and respect their choices?

well they ARE both over the age of consent aren't they? so yes.

Why no though AF?
My 17DD has yet to have a serious bf or gf, but I wouldn't have any problem with it.

I know my parents never allowed it, especially as I had younger siblings in the house. I don't think I'd have been comfortable dtd with my parents across the hall, and I think they felt the same.

Under 18, nope

I probably would. My dd had her boyfriend stay over when she was 17 and he is 5 years older than her.

I take it you don't live with DS's father? If you did then I would think he would have to be ok with it to say yes, but if you don't then it's up to you.

What is the issue with the younger siblings? Surely you have sex with them in the house?

I don't let my 19yo dd sleep with her bf of 3 years when I am home. It's just my choice. This isn't a shag pad for teenagers, this is a family home.

When me and DH are not there, it's ok if he stays over. Out of sight, out of mind

There is no right or wrong answer really, it is what you are comfortable with.

i agree with his father.

Probably yes. So glad I haven't had to face this. Cat is rather out of the bag.

What about STDs?

Op. I have exactly the same. My issue is not the sex but him being like a husband.
He stayed at hers once but o told him it wasn't going to be a thing.

No. I wouldn't.

As said uptrend, it is a family homenot a teenagers shag pad.

Upthread.

Not on a school night but weekends and holidays ok.

At 16, no chance. Also interested in the age gap; none of the 18 year olds I know would look twice at a 16 year old - well not if they're at the same school anyway.

So there's a school year between me and my OH. We were together when he was 17 and I was 18 but I quickly turned 19 not long after. He's youngest in school year I was the oldest in mine. We were together 6 months before I could stay at his and together a year before he could stay at mine. So I don't think the age is a big deal.

They've been together a long time for that age I'd say personally it's fine as long as it's on a weekend. My OH only stays over on a weekend once a weekend. I don't like to take the piss out of my parents as I know it's there house, not mine(even though I pay rent).

Were due to move into our first home together so not going to be a problem anymore. But yes over the age of consent and in a serious long term relationship I don't see any harm. Maybe talk to them and explain they have to respect your decision and respect there are other people in the house. They'll get the idea and hopefully have sex when people aren't in or at least do it quietly.

As soon as i turned 16 my parents (and my boyfriend at the times parents) let us share a bed.
I would happily let my DD share a bed with a boy, providing they were serious about each other (if that makes sense) so in your case, yes i would definitely let them share a bed.