Just had a car ride with DD 17.5 who said that once she goes back to do her A2s this September she will be staying more often with b/f, who lives right near college. Her current trip to college is 45 mins on the college bus. She is sensible, reasonably pleasant (usual foul tempers followed by sweetness, occasional room tidying and chores, generally nice if still snarky 20% of time), responsible with a degree of fecklessness and is easily distracted but sound sense of priorities-ish - the usual mixed teenage bag! Her AS results today were CCD, she was capable of a BBC/BCC but gets anxiety attacks under stress/exams. She is with a nice lad who she stays with as often as she wants to in the holidays. However, I had to bite my tongue (not very successfully) to tell her she certainly wasn't going to stay with him in term-time weekdays. She told me I wasn't being fair and it was her life/choice etc. She is very strong-willed and very keen to be independent. She was always like this, even as a child. She responds well to reasoned negotiation. But I am so unsure what to do for the best....I am single parent to her and her twin brother, have cancer (just lost sight in that eye), and am feeling like I just need to keep things very simple and can't deal with confrontation. I was going to suggest she could do 1 night a week with him and weekends IF her grades stay as they should and her attendance. She will be 18 in Feb and then tougher to argue any case. Some sensible suggestions for my addled brain would be so welcome. Do your 17.5 DDs get to stay over on weeknights? Is it time to hand over to her and let her make her own decisions/mistakes/learning? ~ Thank You ~ Bee