Does all this conflict have a long term impact upon your relationships?

[slippersmum]

Just wondering really. I have a very fraught relationship with my dd and of course I love her but I do spend alot of my time avoiding her as I know there will just be conflict. Its made me feel very anxious and I have started taking some anti anxiety medication to help. Is this a phase or will these years linger with me? Some mornings I wake up with a feeling of dread about what lies ahead. Maybe its just me?

I'd like to know the answer to this too. Depressing, isn't it?

It certainly is!!

There is no answer.. just as you don't get on with all the people you meet, there is no guarantee of a friendship with your adult DCs. Sad, but true. Hundreds of posts on here about MNrs with distant/poor relationships with their parents.

Do you have any shared interests you could bond over to improve your relationship?

My eldest is 22 and she was a moody mare as a teenager walked on constant eggshells around her we get on great now i said to her recently god you were a suly bugger at 15 she said i was just mysterious hang in there it takes time but you get there. Dd2 is a different personality and never really had any fallouts with her

I meant sulky anyway i used to say things like Im not sure why you spoke to me like that or i dont speak to you in that way not sure i deserve your lip it sort of stopped her and made her think till the next time obviously but it difussed a lot.

You have to work hard to enjoy the good moments even though they drive you so crazy much of the rest of the time.

Thing is whatever you do will never please them they will always find something to be annoyed /angry about I stopped trying for a while

I have a very odd relationship with dd at the moment. We are trying to be polite to each other but I feel like I am treading on eggshells and have to think carefully about everything I say so I don't "offend" her and start another strop. At least I am in good company here.