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Unbelievably I am quite enjoying having teenagers

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highlighta · 15/07/2015 15:47

I have two dc 13 and 16. At the present moment there are 6 teenagers in my living room. I am in my office which is a room in the house and I can hear every word they are saying. The other 4 kids live in the next streets to us.

There has been some fantastic negotiations regarding swopping/loaning x-box games

There has been an in depth discussion on the best popcorn flavour

There has been discussions on why their birthday is memorable, ie one is on Valentines day and one is on St Patricks day. The other 4 have boring birthdays apparently

There has not been one swear word, but every second word is that something or other sucks Grin

And the most shocking one of all - they have all been here a couple of hours now and I offered them something to eat. Not one of them was hungry Shock The only conclusion I can come to for that is that I must be a really awful cook Grin

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Bakeoffcake · 19/07/2015 09:43

What a great thread!

I too was very proud of my teenage DDs and their friends. I get so angry when teenagers are protrayed as selfish, entitled beings. Of course they behave like that sometimes usually with their parents and siblings but on the whole, the teenagers I've encountered were lovely, bright, interesting, caring people.

I did have to laugh at whoever mentioned that getting through the hormonal storms was the end of things. It's just the start.......

Add into those hormones, school and exam pressures, friend issues (Y8 and Y9 were particularly memorableHmm), thoughts about their future and what to do, etc etc etc, the "teenage years" go on for a very long time.

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WicksEnd · 19/07/2015 10:57

Great thread! Teen eaters do get such bad press, especially boys Sad mine are 13 & 15, great company, love coming with us to family events, festivals etc and are very good in adult company. Yes they take themselves off to their rooms for hours at a time but eventually come out searching for food. They're loving and kind and lazy and messy but then again, I was messy and lazy as a teen.
Life is pretty straight forward with them at the moment.......
Fingers crossed it remains that way.

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MrsUltracrepidarian · 19/07/2015 14:25

eventually come out searching for food.
Yes! ( Reminds me how we found the lost hamster all those innocent years ago Grin)

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YeOldTrout · 19/07/2015 14:46

Mine can be selfish entitled horrors, and one has been very horrible in the last week. I'll just hide this thread.

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fourtothedozen · 19/07/2015 15:24

Mine are brilliant- I love teenagers. Helpful, kind, funny- they crease me up. This is the best time yet. Our house is harmonious now ( can't say that was always the case when they were younger) I can't remember the last time there was a cross word, there is no door slamming, no attitude.
They are not perfect individuals, but it all works.
Loving it.

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CoffeeAndOranges · 19/07/2015 16:42

I love this thread (although haven't got through it all yet). I'm currently expecting my first, a boy, and I have to admit, I've always had a bit of a fantasy about being a parent to teenage boys, probably because I just loved being part of all that banter and fun with the lads when I was in sixth form. We were just one big gang, girls and boys together, there wasn't much rowing or sexual politics (although we did get drunk and snog each other, all purely as friends of course).

I have never wanted to be a mum to young babies or children (although as I get older I can kind of see the appeal and I'm sure I'll think my own is the most adorable being ever), and am really looking forward to my son and any future siblings growing up. I'm just hoping we do as good a job as you lot seem to have done, and that they become articulate, intelligent people with interests, hobbies, aspirations and wit. That would make me very happy indeed and this thread gives me hope that the teenage years could be a very good time indeed (although I will have to be fully prepared for the grunting/strop years too!) Grin

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fourtothedozen · 19/07/2015 16:55

I've always had a bit of a fantasy about being a parent to teenage boys, probably because I just loved being part of all that banter and fun with the lads when I was in sixth form.

Yes and it can happen again. I love the banter with my Ds' friends, I poke fun, and they poke back.

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CoffeeAndOranges · 19/07/2015 17:00

Yeah expect this time I will be the embarrassing mum!

Just hoping my boy takes after my DH and is tall and slim so I can bake him piles of treats for him and his mates with less guilt!

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CoffeeAndOranges · 19/07/2015 17:06

Expect? I meant except! Same letters, wrong order...

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minxthemanx · 19/07/2015 19:51

Ok, so I'm going wrong somewhere. DS1 is nearly 14. Rude, selfish, wrapped up in himself, vain and NEVER thinks about anyone else. Was a lovely child and I'm v sad. He is very bright, at a really good grammar school, and his friends are a mixture of cultures/social backgrounds - today he has thrown a tantrum because I won't buy him a £70 Gucci belt. Tomorrow it will be something else. Your teens all sound lovely - I live in hope.

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pointythings · 19/07/2015 20:23

Of course you aren't doing anything wrong, minx. The rest of us are the lucky ones. And my normally lovely DD1, who is 14 and has been very lovely all weekend, has spent the last hour of her Sunday being completely obnoxious. It happens.

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AcrossthePond55 · 19/07/2015 21:51

Oh, Minx. Don't let us fool you! I loved my boys' teen years but that doesn't mean that there wasn't angst and anger. Of course there was! Sometimes I just wanted to send them to the Marines! But other times, I could see the men they were going to be and the children they once were, all rolled up in a tall, gangly, overly-enthusiastic package.

Take a step back from your DS1. I'll bet you can see the sweetness still. It's just that sometimes you have to look real hard!

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twidsmum · 20/07/2015 10:15

Minx -he's finding his feet and trying to keep up with peer pressure(which is way worse than ever before) My sons 16,taught me how to prep a carpet for laying(school work ex) this weekend.Which was wonderful,as i've had the 'one Ugh or two 'response for the last eighteen months.I even apologised to my father for my teenage years at one pointGrin

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highlighta · 20/07/2015 10:18

Well my two teens are back at school today after their 3 week winter holiday. Oh my goodness I cannot believe how quiet the house is.............

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BestIsWest · 20/07/2015 10:50

I have to say that I was glad to see my DD going off to Uni. She was good and bad as a teen but by god, when she was bad... She returned as a lovely sweet girl but those years between 14 and 17 were tough on us all as a family. My DS is much easier to handle but whether that is his nature or because we have learned as a family or just luck I don't know.

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CarlaJones · 20/07/2015 11:21

What age range tends to be the hardest with girl teenagers? Or does it vary from child? I have an 11 and 8 year old. I've enjoyed them being primary school age. Just wondering when things are likely to get tough!

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GoodbyeToAllOfThat · 20/07/2015 11:27

My poor sister had a fantastically difficult time with my niece from about 12.5-14.5, their fights were legendary. She just turned 15 and seems to have really turned a corner.

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fourtothedozen · 20/07/2015 11:34

They may not get tough Carla, I have found the teenage years plain sailing.

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highlighta · 21/07/2015 10:15

Not too sure Carla, my dd is 13 so I will tell you in a few years Wink

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