Do you keep your teen's secrets from your dp?

[Haffdonga]

Recent secrets I've been asked to keep and not told dh (their dad) include health fears (GP sorted) and love life dramas.

A secret dh has been asked to keep (but told me anyway) is the purchase of an Xbox game I've banned that is played while I'm out.

So I'm torn. I would be gutted if dh hid our dc's health concerns or emotional turmoil from me. But at the same time I want my teens to trust me to be able to tell me their stuff and not tell their dad. Double standards, no?

So what's your line on this? Do you tell your co-parent what's going on in their lives in confidence or keep mum?

When DD1 was younger she would tell me things, which I would often keep to myself unless there was anything major that DH would need to know. Mostly it was girly things and DH really wouldn't have been interested anyway.
DD2 was a bit smarter about things. She told DH about her doing drugs, because she knew it would be reported to me, and that way she'd get a 'telling off' from her dad (he's a bit of a softie on her though, and it turned into a conversation rather than a good old telling off), and I'd still be kept in the loop. She came to me not so long ago to tell me she was seeing someone, knowing I would tell DH and she wouldn't have to. She picks and choses which of us to tell her 'secrets' to depending on whether she'd be in trouble or not. The trouble related ones are usually one's she goes to her dad with.