Teenage daughter problems

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Feel so broken with her behaviour don't know what to do anymore she has changed so much

You have my sympathies. Care to share details? Or is it just General unpleasantness?

I don't have a teenager (yet) but I was one.

a fucking appalling one.

I recovered though, and so did my relationship with my parents. we are insanely close. a very loving and supportive unit. I rent a house on their street.

there's hope. just be there for her when she needs you, because she doesn't know it yet, but she will need you.

In the last 6 weeks she has become very angry and violent, my dh had an accident in march with serious trauma to his face and has recovered well but she is very angry towards him and just so so verbally hurtful I just need to talk about it my dh is broken with it just want her to be herself again

Sounds like you both need a safe place to talk. She is dealing with emotions she doesn't understand. It's tough enough being a teen but perhaps her anxiety and fear about her dad is manifesting as anger? How old is she? Remember she will also be knackered at this time of year.

She is 13 and has been receiving support at school once a week trying to get to the bottom of it all have had a tough year in general to be honest she has wrote down how she is feeling and it seems to be lots of different things anxiety,worried about the family. She was also taking quiet life tablets without us knowing just so worried about her x

I feel for you. My D suffered really badly (and so did we) during her teen hormones. She just felt so angry towards us. It lasted from about 14 to 18. She's so much better now but there is still some traces that are lingering but she is slowly becoming a lovely young adult.
Please read - get out my life but first take me and Alex to town. It's very good and will help you help her loads. It made a big difference to me anyway.

Also read The Parenting Teenagers Manual by Nicky and Sila Lee and give her a good quality vitamin supplement for young women, eg Higher Nature True Food Wise Woman or similar.

Oh I feel your pain. They are like lions attacking any sign of weakness. I am recovering from a serious illness and some days am in a lot of pain my dd has said 'stop putting it on for sympathy' to me before. Then says she is joking. It grinds you down doesn't it.

I feel that way too, it's been a few years now, she's 18 soon and I feel broken. I just ordered the book suggested above. I'm afraid I don't feel I have any good advice to give you, but it's not just you, so don't feel alone.

A fellow MN'er recommended a book called 'Get out of my Life' (But first take me & Alex into town)
I read it over a weekend and I have to say it has transformed my dealing with my very troubled teenaged daughter who has been challenging to say the least for the last year (angry, self-harming, closed down, room like a tramp's den)
I can't recommend it highly enough - I have stopped reacting and I understand this helps both of us. I also understand why she is like this.
It is still hard but it has helped.
Good luck it is so hard

I'm also at a lost with my daughter, she was fine up until 16 then just before she left school she changed. she has said some horrible things to me and I can not help but just loose it with her. she plays the victim in everything and blames everyone (other then her self) for her shit life at the moment. My husband is not her father and she often texts me disrespectfully speaking about him. I've had it with her.