17 year old is OFF THE RAILS!

[VictoriaSandwitch]

S and I are a proud lesbian couple with three wonderful children...sort of...

It all began when our 17 year old Elizabeth started calling herself "Lizzy". Later we found strange things in her room: a riding crop (she doesn't have a horse) handcuffs and even more disturbingly dummies (pacifiers)! She sneaks out of the house at strange hours and has started coming home late. We have seen her with a number of different boys and its not the boys that bothers us its the number of them. The most confusing part is that she seems to have more money lately too or at least money to buy new things...maybe these boys are just giving her gifts?

We have always been open about our sexuality with our children. Maybe growing up in this environment has lead to Elizabeths change? We don't want this to happen to our other children. Any help is much appreciated

Hi, hugs xxx have you talked directly to her? If not I think you should. It sounds like she's experimenting and my first worry would be to ensure she's safe. It's tricky as she is 17 but sneaking out etc may well be risky depending on who she is with etc. please please put out of your head that you have somehow caused this by being open about your sexuality, I'm certain that has absolutely nothing to do with it, as mums we always find something to beat ourselves up about!!!

Calling herself lizzy? Definitely a prostitute.

Oh yawn

Bored with study leave OP? Perhaps you could try your hand at baking.

Glad that our lives are so laughable to you all. Bit too old for study leave these days but do love a bit of baking. So much for help from mumsnet

wind up?

Don't do yourselves down - no-one is too old for study leave. Try not to be narrow minded.

Perhaps this a phase she is going through? Try asking her about it. Maybe she is just trying to shock you by going over the top. They do like to shock us and she's mmaybe taking it a bit further than the late nights and lovebites stuff as you are not your average conservative partnership. If she is embarrassed or very secretive then tell her your concerns but she might just be acting out.

don't mean to sound homophobic btw. Just reread that!. I'm not conservative either having been a single parent for 15 years! Just meant we are not the average mum, dad, 2.2 kids. X

Yeah. Or on the game. Either way probs just a phase.

Calling herself Lizzy? Wow, that is serious. I can see why you're worried.

Lizzy is a jezebels name.