I wish I could help but I have no real answers. A boy in her class likes dd. She loves his company, but she 'likes' a boy of nearly 15 (first I heard of this was today..) Anyway, the younger one appears to have taken umbrage and he, along with a large group of her friends, gave her the cold shoulder today. One girl later said it was just a 'joke' but dd is upset. She says they won't be her friend if she chooses this older boy over them. She just wants to be friends with all of them and says she doesn't want to 'go out with' this older one, she's not ready for that. That's a relief! I've suggested she have a quiet day tomorrow avoiding them if she wants to, or speaking to the ones she wants to when she's up to it. In the longer term, thinking about finding some other, less judgmental friends. I know this is common enough stuff, but we've probably got a few more years of this sort of thing to come! Also, I'm just uneasy about a Y10 boy being friends with a Y8 girl. Apparently he does have friends of his own age. Just tell me I'm being paranoid! Does anyone have any other suggestions? I feel I'm not really saying the right things...?