My dd15 has had issues in the past, over 2 years ago, having inappropriate conversations with boys she hardly knows, via texts mainly. We found out about it by finding a very graphic paragraph she had written and left in her bedroom. By checking her phone we discovered much more, talked her through it, explained safety issues, the rights and wrongs of relationships etc, but mainly safety, all in a calm, but very clear matter. We did feel that she may have initially been led into it. She promised she would stop. We then found out a number of months afterwards that she hadn't stopped, but she was now doing the same, but verbally on her mobile, not by texts. Some 'game' involved, called 'truth or dare', but nothing like the truth or dare we ever played. I am in my mid 40's and fairly openminded. We again approached her on this, more firmly, and again she said it had finished. We put a couple of things in place including mobile being left downstairs at bedtime, and this is how it has been for almost the last 2 years. Although we have always done things as a family, over these two years we have been more conscious of keeping an even keel with regards to spending time together etc. She has a hobby that she loves, and loans a pony, where she spends a lot of her time. So outwardly, everything is completely happy and normal. However, this is where I now need to know if we are old fashioned in how teenagers converse with each other on the phone? In her case, she has met a couple of boys she hardly knows, from what I can gather. She says she knows them from town, but she hardly goes into town, and they are not on Facebook. On Saturday last she was going to meet a lad, I said that at the very least I wanted to see what he looked like, she got him to post a picture, and he seemed a young lad, prob her age. Last night she was upset, I asked what was wrong. It was heading to 10pm, so past bedtime, and I suggested it was now time to be off to bed. She said that she was on to one of her friends but that she now had to leave the phone downstairs and couldn't finish the conversation. I said just pop down and finish talking to her, I had no problem whatsoever with that. She said no it was ok, just that it makes it difficult when all of her friends have their phones to bed with them. I promptly asked one of her friends mums, they don't allow phones at bedtime either. I checked her phone today, she wasn't on to her friend, but to another random lad. Whilst checking her phone, I found a photo of her lying on a bed with the lad she met in Saturday, she told me they went to the park and mcdonalds! She was also asking another lad if he wanted her to write a 'paragraph' for him, I can only presume this was going to contain some kind of inappropriate words for him to 'get off' to. We have no problem with her having a boyfriend, but not a stranger, that nobody knows and she has picked up from God knows where. Do teenage relationships work like this now? Is it now normal for teenagers to speak/text, girls/boys, they don't really know, just for a thrill. Or have we a deep rooted issue here that I have no idea how to deal with. She is a clever girl, that says she isn't stupid, but in my mind she is acting just that; stupid! In a way I can't bear the whole confrontation thing again, she knows the risks, we've told her, what else can I do? Are our views old fashioned, or is she putting herself in a dangerous position?