Sexuality

[Twinkletoes6]

I have found my 15yr old son on several occasions wearing my underwear. I have tried to talk to him but he just says he doesn't know why he does it. He says he fancies girls but has not had any relationships so far. I am out of my depth and don't know how to approach this. Is this just a normal part of growing up, experimenting etc?

so you check your 15 year old's pants regularly do you? how odd.

Cross dressing isn't an indication of sexuality. If he is gay/bisexual/straight does it really matter?

Eww. There is nothing wrong with cross dressing but I would be buying him some of his own pants as stealing yours is completely unacceptable.

Cross dressing is not an indicator of sexuality. And even if it were there is nothing wrong with being gay or bisexual.

Maybe he's just experimenting and there's nothing wrong with that. You should buy him some of his own though.

I just came on to say that he needs to get his own too. It's not on to be going through your things and taking your underwear. I'm sure he would prefer new stuff anyway.
It sounds like you can talk about stuff so that's good.
You might want to do a bit of research on cross dressing, it has nothing to do with his sexual orientation.
I wouldn't put too much emphasis on this, its his personal business he just needs to know that he can talk to you if he wants.
As long as he feels loved and secure all will be well.

Is he shy with girls, or does he mix easily at school with both boys and girls? Is he in a mixed sex school? Does he have any activities or hobbies where he can mix with girls; drama or music are obvious candidates.

Today, for most children in primary and secondary schools, mixing with the opposite gender is completely normal, and relationships are often relaxed and not considered 'any big deal'. Unlike my own junior school in the '40s, which had a separate boys' playground, away from the girls and infants, and I grew up imagining there was some dramatic reason why boys and girls needed to be kept apart.

I agree it could just be 'experimenting', wanting to know what women's clothes 'feel' like. (I am male btw.)

I have worked with teenagers in schools, and many do claim to be sexually 'aware' and some 'active' but as a TA or voluntary helper (I have been both) one cannot normally know how much is bravado, or wanting to keep in with their peers. Many older teens were not shy to talk to me about drink, drugs, sex, porn etc, (just in general conversation). Some boys, for instance, would frequently draw cannabis leaves in their 'jotter' books, though I can't recall pictures of a sexual nature. (Perhaps they wouldn't want me to see that; but they would often ask inappropriate sexual questions.)

Perhaps many girls and women do not realise how difficult coping with puberty, sexual interests and desires can be for shy or insecure boys.