I had a lovely, sensible hard working 16 yr old daughter, who, since last autumn, has turned into a monster. I am a single mum and also have a son at 1st year uni. I was diagnosed with cancer at Christmas and have had two operations just after. Since the operations, I struggle with holding down a full time job, keeping house and everything that comes with having a 16yr old in the house.
She use to be so lovely and now she is just horrid. My son was coming home at weekends since Christmas as he was worried about me and wanted to help, despite me saying he needs to enjoy uni. Now he has said he will only come when his sister is at her father's or away, as she is so horrible.
My daughter does everything from ignoring me, to throwing strops, storming out the house. She does absolutely nothing to help, treating the place as a hotel. When I mean nothing, it is nothing. She puts nothing away, leaves her cups and plates wherever she is, drops towels on the floor and leaves her clothes where she steps out of them. She has managed to cause an incident on every significant day not centred around her since last autumn. This is not how I have brought her up and am at my wit's end.
Her father is useless and last time I tried to discuss it with him, he just laughed and put the phone down. I have spoken to school and the doctor, who told me I don't need the stress (which was helpful!).
I am currently sitting in a local coffee shop, so I don't have to deal with her for half an hour. Any ideas?