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Girls and their friendships

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Slippersmum · 20/04/2015 08:03

Is it just me or are your dds friendships a total nightmare. We lurch from fall out to fall out and I think I am handling it all wrong. We are currently in an exclusion situation (she has been excluded from her friendship group at school). It really upsets me, maybe to much. How do other people handle these fall outs within themselves? Does anyone else seem to be living through constant dramas?

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Redwineplease42 · 20/04/2015 10:01

Yes always Confused
How old is yours? Mine is year 9 it begun in year 8 and just gets worse and worse and more vicious! I hate it and do get a bit anxious with worrying about it and trying to decide whether to step in!

shadypines · 20/04/2015 20:02

Hi Slippers and Redwine, sorry to hear your posts, it is so hard isn't it? Slippers, do you know how far the exclusion is going (any particular reason for it), if it involves ignoring (amongst other things) then this is bullying behaviour. Is there anyone you can speak to at the school?

1st day back at school today and there is angst with my DD Yr j8, tried to give advice but it falls on deaf ears. Sigh.

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Slippersmum · 20/04/2015 21:13

Thanks to both of you although it's awful you have difficulties I am glad I am not alone. It really helps to hear other people's experiences does t it. I think I get myself to upset. I have spoken with school who say they are investigating but they are not great with things like this. I know once we have dealt with this we will be onto the next issue! Are some girls more prone to fall outs do you think?

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Slippersmum · 20/04/2015 21:13

Forgot to say she is year 8.

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givemestrength38 · 20/04/2015 21:26

I think they all fall out but some don't get sensitive or seem to care.Some of DDs friend seem happiest when arguing . DD on the other hand gets very upset so i hear all the details where as others take it on the chin.Think its down to confidence to DD is not a cocky type she needs approval!

BackforGood · 20/04/2015 21:30

I would ensure they do things out of school as well, so everything isn't reliant on friends from school.
My (Yr11) dd's closest friends are from her hobbies. She has friends at school as well, but if they ever fell out, she wouldn't feel alone and abandoned.

manechanger · 22/04/2015 17:17

i watched carnage the other day which is a polanski play. I think it was on bbc2 and is great for parents of this age group as it shows two sets of parents getting wound up by their sons fight. My dd is y7 and we've had trouble for a while. In primary a parent contacted me and it didn't go well (all by text) it was uncomfortable for about 6 months. the kids had made up within a week.

dd came home in tears today because her friend criticised a part of her body. wtf? my dd also has hobby friends which is nice. I talk to her about how friends at 11 are just proximity friends, she can ditch them if she wants and when she's older at work or uni she can meet people she actually likes. she just has to have 'colleagues' at school. Stopped her crying today but possibly just because of the futility of it all

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