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Prom / Leavers Ball - are your boys just not fussed?

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GaryBaldy · 19/04/2015 12:04

All my friends with Y11 DDs have been dress shopping / booked hair appointments / arranging the pre-ball party and the after-ball party / limo / nails / tans etc etc

DS is just not bothered, he wants to go, I've forked out £50 for the ticket along with another £35 for leavers year book, leavers hoodie etc etc but he doesn't care how he gets there or what he wants to wear.

It's just boys isn't it? He has ASD so I don't know if he has just not picked up on stuff and I don't want him to be the only one left out when he realises everyone else is going together in a helicopter or some OTT gesture

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busybeev · 20/04/2015 15:30

My DS is looking forward to his prom. We got his suit yesterday. I thought it would be a problem finding one to fit as he is only about 5'5" with a 28" waist. We went to MacArthur Glen to Moss Bros and got a 3 piece suit, shirt and tie for £149 which I thought was a bargain. He needed a 34S jacket and there were not that many to choose from in that small size but he is really pleased with it and looks so smart. He seems to be the first amongst his friends to get his suit although most of the girls have their dresses sorted already. Booking transport seems to be a problem though. They are trying to organize it between themselves and nobody can make a decision. I reckon they will end up going in parents cars!

BackforGood · 20/04/2015 21:37

Other way round in this house.

ds was looking forward to his for quite a while. Did quite a bit of pondering about whether to wear 'just' a suit or to go with a bow tie, etc.,etc., Lots of plans that they never got to finalising to do with transport. In the end, another parent helped them book a limo and invited all the parents to come and have a drink and send the lads off in style (they all went together as friends, none of this 'couples' stuff the American films are all about).

dd1 OTOH, has decided she's not going to hers. She thinks it's a load of overpriced faff and is adament she's not going. End of.

Invizicat · 20/04/2015 21:49

I bought a horrible shiny suit from Top Man for ds2's prom on Saturday. It will double up as sixth form 'uniform' next year. Top Man's choice of suit is fashionably skinny, extremely skinny or ultra matchstick skinny.

When I suggested that ds also needed to choose a shirt and tie, he looked at me horrified and said But how do I know what sort to choose?

We decided that a suit was enough trauma shopping for one year day. Wink

Now we have to worry about being invited to the after prom party.

longtimelurker101 · 20/04/2015 22:12

Matalan are good for suits. Got the whole lot for £80 and to be fair in the photos you can't tell the difference between him and his mate in the £250 Hugo Boss number ( unless you look really closely), couldn't on the day either.

Good pair of shoes helps, Chelsea boots are good and stylish.

The DDs spent months building up to it, DS was the weekend before. What's the line from the film: " the best thing about prom is the dress, it's all down hill from there." That's about right!

ChillySundays · 20/04/2015 22:19

Have to say the assistant was brilliant in Burtons (appreciate this will vary from branch to branch). She showed DS how to know whether the trouser length was right, helped him picked the right style etc.

Can't remember how much we paid but it was cheap with shoes included

She has a queue forming at one point. The men could hardly get into the changing room for Y11 boys sorting out their prom suits

BackforGood · 21/04/2015 01:06

I have to say I'm glad we only spent £35 on ds's suit (from Matalan) , as he was in a rapid growing spurt and it was too small for him 6 weeks later !

bigbluebus · 21/04/2015 16:10

DS didn't go to his Yr 11 Prom as they moved it from May (when it had been for years) to June after the exams finished. We had already booked a holiday starting the day of the Prom. DS was not bothered at all even though his friends were going. Most of them were going back to 6th form anyway so it wasn't as if he wouldn't see them again.

He is now Yr 13 and they have a Leavers Ball in June after the A levels finish. He seems keen to go this time and I think this will be more of a 'leavers' celebration as they really all will be going their separate ways. He will no doubt be very particular about what he wears as he is renowned for dressing smartly but I'm hoping to get away with the navy suit I bought him to go to his Grandfather's funeral and just buy him a new shirt and tie.

poppym12 · 21/04/2015 18:57

DS said he didn't want to go when it was announced and he's (currently) showing no signs of regret.

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