Son moving to his dads

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My DS who is 22, I know not a teenager but this was the nearest board to my situation I could find, is moving to his Dads today. Even though he's 22 I still feel like a failure. :-((

Really sorry to hear this, OP, of course you are upset.
And it's a poor do that your DH is not supporting you and is glad he had gone. I hope he hasn't been engaged in a territory war and driven your son out.

22 is no bad time to leave home, but if it was in painful circumstances and your DH played a part have a think about how that happened and how far he thinks you are now 'all his'.

what will happen now? Will your DS come round for a meal from time to time?

Hairy, her son was treating them both badly, tbh. There were other threads about it and given his age, I think her DH was reasonable in being completely pissed off about it.

I think this change of scene will either show his dad exactly what the OP's been complaining about or will make the son change his ways out of embarrassment. Either way, it's a winner.

Hi, thanks for all your posts. My DH has been really pissed off with it all, as have I. I hope he is the same way with his Dad but I guess I'll never know that. I really want to enjoy it but am struggling with guilt side of things. Just out of interest what's your thoughts on whether DS should keep a key?

Would you feel this way if he was moving in with a girlfriend?

No I wouldn't, not at all.

He's still got one, he didn't want to give it back incase he needed to get back in and as I was upset I didn't push it.

I think your right. I was all up for him not having a key but when it came to it, I folded. My DH has mentioned it since but it's only a matter of time. I still need to deal with telling my parents, it'll be such a drama with then!

Hi, I don't think he'd ever ask to come back, next step I think should be his own place although he'll always have a home with me if need be, no question. Not sure my DH would agree. He's still got the key, and so far so good. If he misuses it then I'd have to re think. Thank you all for your comments & advice, it's been a tricky week and I'm still affected by him moving out, I'm sure it'll take a few weeks. I haven't been able even to go back in his room yet!