What time does your 16 year old (Year11) have to be home?

[MummiUni]

DS hardly ever goes out so i am a bit clueless with what is the norm.

He thinks 11.00 - I have no idea if that is too late or not.

Omgoodness, I can't imagine mine not having keys to the house!!
Mine are 17 (almost) and 13. The 13 yr old has had keys since he was 11. It means he can nip home at lunchtime if he wants, or can go out if there is no one home. It also means I have more flexibility in my job, if I am in the middle of something I don't need to drop and run to let children in.

Tbh, I treat them with respect and I get it back. I have yet to have either take advantage. DD even told me when she planned to skip "social dancing" at school and I let her

I can't imagine enforcing no keys at that age. It would be entirely impractical in my family dynamic.

I probably should get some more keys cut! We live in one of those places where you don't always lock the doors.
Never even thought of giving them keys. There is someone home 99% of the time and if not I'd leave the door unlocked or key in the porch.
If DS1 (19) is out I just go to bed and he will lock the door as he comes in.

No curfew here. Time to be home by dependent entirely on where they're going and logistics of getting home. Afternoon trip shopping, home at 6 for supper. Evening party get picked up at midnight. Early evening cinema home half an hour after film finishes etc.

You need to know where they are, what they're doing and who with, vaguely anyway. A blanket 'back by 11' is no good on its own.

Everything - I can't understand how he's got to 16 without having a key How does he get in whatever time of day it is, if you aren't there? Mine have all had keys from when they were about 9 or 10. We couldn't function as a family if they weren't able to let themselves in when they get home. How odd.

OP Mine have never had a specific 'blanket' time as it depends on where they are, what they are doing, how they are getting back, what's coming up in the next few days, etc.etc
No point in saying 'In by 9 every week day night' if something they attend doesn't finish until 9.30. If it's a party then I'll ask them what time it finishes and how they are getting home. My dd in Yr 11 hasn't had any that go on after 11 yet my experience with my 18 yr old is that it changes somewhat in the 6th form. None of mine have ever felt the need to just hang around, if there's nothing they are going to, then they are in their rooms.

One of mine 16 just come in, not staying awake for her but up anyway due to circs. Fine she is with safe friends tbh. Some people she knows I wouldn't be happy for her to be out with at 10am :/ she cancelled a big night last week as not reliable friends there so I don't set curfew

I can't believe a 16 year old doesn't have a key. How does he get in when you're not home?

Thank you for the replies.
He has had a key for years so that isn't the issue (unless he forgets it). We asked him to be back by 11 last night and he was home by 10 .
I'm guessing this will all change once the exams are over.

To be fair-I am home all of the time at the mo as I am a week and a bit from giving birth and have awful spd and I also have a 15 month old so getting out is painful... Once baby is born and I am out and about again, then I am thinking a key would make sense. He is hardly ever home, he goes to work at 8am and gets home at 10pm as he goes to friends after he finishes. So I am in when he leaves and comes home. He spends every weekend out aswell so he doesn't need a key right now. But he will get one by the summer. Hes so absent minded I must drum it into him how important it is to lock the door.

Everything how on earth were you a child in the fifties if you've just given birth???

As pp's have said, mine don't have a set time, it depends what they're doing. 16 year old dd2 went to a friend's last night, got the bus back to town and I walked in with the dog to meet her - she asked me what time I wanted her home, but I said to just text me when she was getting on the bus (in practice that would be at either ten or eleven, although she could have surprised me and stayed until midnight I guess).

Not at that stage yet but mine was 10:30 which I moaned about but seems very reasonable compared to 6:30

I'm going to have no clue what is 'normal' when my DCs get to this age.

I wasn't allowed out at all (rural) and had a bedtime of 10.30 until I left home at 17.

atiaofthejulii that was a quote I found online lol I'm not in my 50's I'm 37 lol

Surely they go out after 6.30 on an evening rather than be home for then, unless you mean if they have been out during the day and need to be back at 6.30 for dinner?