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Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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AAAAAARRRGGGGHHHHH

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operaha · 10/03/2015 21:14

17 year oldsSad Sad Sad
that's all really, so sick of being spoken to like shit! so sick of the entitlement, emotional blackmail, drama, lack of effort at college, rudeness, more drama, sneering, eye rolling - give me a fucking break and be human for just 24 hours.

that is all, sorry, feels better though.

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CalicoBlue · 10/03/2015 21:19

I know just how you feel.

Last night after a day at work and all you have just listed, I had enough. I told DS, no shouting, to just fuck off and leave me alone.

It is exhausting.

SoupDragon · 10/03/2015 21:21

Remember that if we were living in the wild, we would probably have chased the teenagers out of the pack well before they got to 17.

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operaha · 10/03/2015 21:22

the laziness.
the yelling at me for her not doing what I've asked her to do and me being a little cross not getting in from work until nearly 7pm and not even the dishwasher emptied so I can start dinner.
She's on a diet now too, christ help us all.

Thanks Wine for you. No wonder I go to bed at 9 most nights.....

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Mintyy · 10/03/2015 21:23

It is nature's way of ensuring you are happy to see your babies leave the nest. I know that sounds flippant, but it's not meant to be.

Number42 · 11/03/2015 12:10

Oh no! Ours is 14 and I was so hoping it might have got better by 17....

Vicarscat · 11/03/2015 12:13

My DD is going to boarding school at 13. I'm hoping that this will make those tough teenage years a lot easier on both of us. We are both looking forward to it already!

ChillySundays · 11/03/2015 15:07

My DC 20 and 16 do bugger all to help. I scream I shout to no avail and to be honest I do not have the energy. But on the other they are not out late getting drunk. I am thankful for that.

I do get the attitude at times but it does get better. My DD started to drop the attitude at about 18

Petonk · 11/03/2015 15:09

Remember that if we were living in the wild, we would probably have chased the teenagers out of the pack well before they got to 17

Excellent

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operaha · 11/03/2015 18:03

14 was crap, 17 is a whole nother world. at her age I'd moved out because I was pregnant with her at least it gave my mum some peace

my ds 15 is generally a joy sobs please don't take him tooSad

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misspollysdollyridesagain · 11/03/2015 18:44

We are at 15 with DD and although there are some nicer days from time to time, the thing I dislike most of all is the god-awful moral high ground she always manages to occupy. And how nothing - not a single thing - is ever her fault or responsibility. So most of our 'encounters' with DD end up with her whine-shouting something that goes a bit like this: "it's so unfair: that thing was totally not my fault. I was trying to help you out/be a good friend/doing nothing wrong Hmm AND now YOU'RE shouting/swearing at me/threatening me with violence. I don't even know what supposed to have done wrong....!"

God, I'm tired...Confused

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operaha · 11/03/2015 19:02

aaaaahhhh I know that one well.

positive note, she just awoke from her after college nap Hmm Hmm and even though feeling a bit ill has managed to have a civilized conversation with me.
I mean she did snap when I said she might be feeling weak due to the stupid diet she's on. but for us, this is a good evening I've had a Wine and now in bathroom waiting for bath

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fredfredsausagehead1 · 11/03/2015 19:05

Tell me about it Confused

Fairyfellowsmasterstroke · 11/03/2015 19:36

she just awoke from her after college nap

OP, I'm so glad you posted this comment as I thought I was the only parent in the world with an 18yr old who gets so exhausted during her 6 hour college day that she has to come home and nap!!!!!!

She walks in the front door, kicks shoes off which bounce and scuff against the radiator, drops bag in the middle of the floor, announces "I'm exhausted - going to bed".

And that's it for about 4 hours.

She usually reappears around 8.30pm, reheats her tea (which has been shopped for, prepared, cooked, and had all the cooking implements/pans washed, dried and put away) and then disappears upstairs to "rest".

If I dare to mention her contribution to household jobs I'm met with a ""look"" and a scathing comment somewhere along the line of "Don't you know I have college work to do?"

FFS, She's going to have a real shock when she joins the real world!!!!!

BabyGanoush · 11/03/2015 19:52

I am not sure I would leave a tea? Just eat at dinner time or make yourself something?

Easy for me to say as have younger teen..

Not sure how I ended up on this threadGrin
Good luck ladies!

Madamecastafiore · 11/03/2015 19:54

God I remember the 'after college nap' = getting out of doing anything/socialising with anyone.

PowderMum · 11/03/2015 20:26

I can somewhat sympathize as mine are now 15 and 18. They are very messy and I ask each day if when I walk in after a 10 hour day if the kitchen could be tidy so I can start tea.
It rarely is, but when I get in they will help to tidy and prepare tea. And on days when I can't get home they will cook for themselves.
Although they are moody, and very messy, they don't need a sleep after school/college. In fact most nights they are on the go until 8 or 9, it is me that needs to collapse and recover when I get home.
I am not sure I want the eldest to leave home in the Autumn, but I do look forward to walking into a tidy house and putting my feet up with a glass of wine. No more last minute stops on the way home to Sainsburys as we have run out of food again.

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