ds1 broken hearted and i cant help him!!!

[Tyedye]

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sorry have no experience of this as my ds is only 4! However, I can remember my heart being broken at 16 and my mum doing her best to help me through it. You can't stop these things happening to your children and I guess the best you can do is let your ds know that you are there if wants to talk, that you love him and you want to help him. You say his home life is awful? What are you doing to improve that yourself? Is stepdad still on the scene?

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Your poor ds. My teenagers are slightly younger, but you know that they sort of have to go thru' this 'first love' thing, and I'm already dreading it!

Oh Tyedye. Things sound bad. Can you kick the stepdad out? If not, do you have family or friends you and your ds can go to? Whatever has happened at home, never forget that you deserve a peaceful, stable and happy life, so does your ds. I hope you find the strength you need to get out of there.

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OK chuck. I hear what you're saying. Time for action not words! Good luck but in the meantime look after yourself and when your ds is able to talk to you just be there to listen to him. Sending you hugs and strength.

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Oh Tyedye

I feel for you i really do,my ds1 and his gf are 15 and have been going out since beginning of April and are besotted with each other.

I am so scared that when/if they do break up one or the other will be devastated.I love my son so much and to see him as unhappy as your ds will kill me.

But i think you are helping him loads just by letting him know he can talk to you and that you are there for him.

(((hugs)))

I feel for your ds, but he is young and his heart will mend. it's yours i fear for. what a crap situation to be in but the bottom line is, you have to do what you have to do for your sanity, and it is possible to end things and for your children to come through it ok. one day the younger ones would pick up on all the crap too. have you found out where you stand about the house and so on and the sort of money you would be entitled to? i know it's a huge step but you have to look after you and your ds needs to see that no relationship is better than a bad one. keep letting your children know that you love them all regardless (as i'm sure you do) and put your needs first.