Advice for dealing with teenaged daughter lying about texts

[Billynomates2015]

Teen daughter 16, texting 17 year old boy from college, we have always been open and explained about the importance of honesty, but have discovered they have been texting each other about sex, they don't seem to want to go out on dates, but are trying to meet up at his house.she has deleted her text history after meeting today after school, which we agreed to as it was at a cafe.how do we set ground rules and sugest dating, or are we old fashioned?

I think there's a difference between setting ground rules and suggesting something. Tbh, I think as she's 16, you can't set rules, you just need to advise and be there to support.

What sort of dates are you envisaging? Certainly when I was 16, there was a lot of hanging around at each other's houses, rather than going out somewhere, which involves money.

She's 16. . You need to back off a bit man.

Not your business.

How did you "discover" what they were texting about? When I was sixteen (a very long time ago) we did an awful lot of what is now called "hooking up" with people we didn't go on dates with. But because there were no texts, parents either genuinely didn't find out, or turned a blind eye. I think all you can do is remind her to stay safe and don't do anything she isn't comfortable with.