Advice for dealing with teenaged daughter lying about texts

[Billynomates2015]

Teen daughter 16, texting 17 year old boy from college, we have always been open and explained about the importance of honesty, but have discovered they have been texting each other about sex, they don't seem to want to go out on dates, but are trying to meet up at his house.she has deleted her text history after meeting today after school, which we agreed to as it was at a cafe.how do we set ground rules and sugest dating, or are we old fashioned?

i think at 16/17 you need to let her have her own sex life and not get involved
as long as you have spoken about safe sex then anything else would be intrusive
i would have hated it at that age for my parents to be getting involved and wanting to know more info that i was willing to give

One of the texts was about him wanting to get her drunk to relax her, that worried us seeing as he is older. We are happy for them to meet up, and will collect her/ pick her up, but the speed of the relationship has gone from knowing each other from school, texting, too wanting to meet up alone at his house when they don't even know each other.

then imo you need to talk to her about whats acceptable in general terms, dont let her know that you have read or know her texts or if she is aware you have read them refer to them

dont blast in and talk about casual sex as being bad and relationships is the only way but talk about her being responsible (safe sex) and respect (as in her not doing anything she doesnt want to do or is uncomfortable doing (rather than no casual sex)

if you ban her from seeing him then it may possible make her want to see him more and even do stuff she isnt comfortable doing