how do I get ds16 to understand he's being rude???

[ssd]

I wanted to swear in the title but my broadband blocks certain words so I'll say it here, how do I get ds of 16 to realise hes being fucking rude and arrogant a lot of the time??

its driving me crazy

I pull him up, talk to him, snap a lot but nothing gets through to him

hes just short and rude and dismissive of us and it drives me fucking utterly mental!!

aaarrrggghhhhh!!!!!!

Wait approximately 2-3 years....

Tell him that the next time he does it X consequence will happen and carry it through. Make sure that he knows you mean business.

I remember reading on here that one MNetter was getting such cheek from her son and his pride and joy was his Xbox which she threw out of the window after he gave her cheek for the last time. It smashed the Xbox but he (if I remember correctly) finally got a wakeup call. The MNetter was actually asking if she had gone too far and I didn't think so based on what she had written.

I'm not suggesting you chuck your son's Xbox out of the window but make sure that it's a startling consequence and carry it through. Make sure though that it's not a consequence that will impact on the rest of the family either (no broadband for example).

Can you withdraw services? Why should you provide meals, clean clothes, transport, money for anyone who is rude and antisocial? I assume you have had conversations about what it acceptable - i.e., standard politenss and respect - so can you withdraw goods and services and detach until he realises that you are not a one-way fount of stuff to be taken for granted and be treated with disdain. By his actions, so shall he reap....

withdrawing sounds a good idea

Withdrawing caused more friction in my house. So, five years on we're nearly there.

Good luck!

what worked monty, just time?

I sent my teenager's iPad for a swim in the sink.

Extreme, but he learned I had a limit.

ssd I'm afraid so. And it wasn't easy. Best of luck. Perseverance is needed in buckets.