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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

Feel like a doormat!

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Mumto3femaleteens · 26/02/2015 00:23

I am a mum to 3 older teens. No problems with drink, drugs etc. But, after my mum suffered a stroke last week, it suddenly dawned on me what a selfish trio they are. My husband works away from home and I work full time. The house is a shit hole. None of them even offer to make me a cup of tea or even ask how their Nanna is doing (my mums not the best grandmother in the world so I can understand this). I am the only person my mum has but feeling the pressure of work/kids/daily hospital visits. Not like me, but feel I'm about to crack and I'm having trouble sleeping. Advice please! I know I need to get some perspective but constantly feeling guilty about being particularly good at solving anything at the mo!

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noblegiraffe · 26/02/2015 00:56

Ask them for help. 'With your nan in hospital I really need you to step up with the housework. Here are the jobs I need you to take on, please can you come up with a rota.'

Teens are quite self-centred so it probably hasn't even occurred to them that you might be struggling or need a bit of TLC.

Mumto3femaleteens · 26/02/2015 06:59

Thank you, noblegiraffe, will try that approach.

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2fedup · 26/02/2015 07:13

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Claybury · 26/02/2015 07:30

Agree with noble
It's common for teens to live in their own little bubble. DH and I are working on getting ours to help out more ( by which I mean literally put your own plate in dishwasher) but it's almost impossible. They are selfish by nature , it's a phase , it doesn't mean they are not nice people.

AnyFucker · 26/02/2015 07:34

draw up a rota of chores

give them no money, cooking/laundry/cleaning/taxiing services unless they pitch in

ignore all belly aching

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