My DS crack addiction

[stressedoutmum123]

Hi,
Joined mumsnet just to ask for advice about this matter. My son who's 18 got into the wrong crowd during summer, he was rarely home and his personal hygiene has gone out the window. I found some burnt tinfoil with some white residue on it and I've noticed money missing from my purse often. Any advice to stop this behaviour

Have you asked him about it?

If you're living with an addict or someone who steals money you're going to need to hide your money/valuables.

Is he working?

Sorry to hear this, it must be really difficult. I think I would ask for professional help and advice. If it is drug addiction then it is something he most likely will need help to deal with. It won't be easy, but your love and good advice from professionals, I am sure you will get there in the end!

Oh I'm sorry. This must be hard to handle. You need to ask him, but he will be sensitive to (perceived) criticism and so you'll probably need to come across as supportive, but - with boundaries. I think you will need to be clear about what you will/won't accept (in your own head first) and your son needs to know these boundaries, but equally know you will always be there for him.

It's always good to remember this: you didn't cause it, you can't cure it, you can't control it.

But you can be clear with him about your boundaries, whilst letting him know you are them to support him out of it.

Thanks all for your support

Yes kick him out.

You be horrified at that advice because you're not there yet. You'll go through every avenue possible before you'll get there but know one thing. Once he knows you know things will escalate because he'll see your love and tolerance and he will exploit it.

The quicker he hits rock bottom and ready for the help the better.

I'm sorry man.

Sorry you're going through this.
My work colleague age 24 said the best thing her mum did when she was younger was kicking her out due to bad drug problems
They have a good relationship now.

The previous 2 posters are correct, however hard it may seem. We went through 5 years of hell trying to 'support' an addict. Things only started to turnaround when we made him leave.
An addict by definition does not want to stop. Do not believe him when get tells you he has it under control.

Are you sure it is crack? On tinfoil? Wouldn't 't be my first thought.